Several single Christian women have been there. Yes, even I considered it…hooking up with an unbeliever who rejects the gospel that I love. Why? There is something about a lonely heart and a weary mind that can lead us to believe foolishness.
I never intended on abandoning my service to God to take up with a man who didn’t believe. I had this idea that I could change him. I could be the spiritual influence he needs in his life. Now I know that all day long the Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. But my ego got in the way and I saw my circumstance as “special”.
God promised Abraham and Sarah that He would give them a child in their old age. However, they just couldn’t let it go at that. They had to reason the situation on their own. The promise seemed impossible. God appeared to be late in His timing. God promised me in prayer some five years earlier that He would bless me to be married. My thought pattern was the same as Abraham and Sarah.
Did God forget about me?
I’d been single so long that it seemed unattainable to find a single, loving, attractive, funny, intelligent, responsible man of God. As the years passed and I went from my early twenties to mid-twenties, the pickens seemed to get slim. It felt like going to a 12 hour sidewalk sale in the eleventh hour. Everything in your size and favorite colors are gone. So you wonder to the 80% off rack and buy three Thanksgiving Day sweatshirts from three years ago just so you don’t feel defeated walking out with nothing. Well…okay…maybe only I do that. (Smile)
It was hard trusting God’s promise; even knowing that He did in fact bless Sarah to give birth to Isaac in her old age. But, I tried to help God anyway. The extent of my pursuit to have a relationship with an unbeliever went as far as a few dinners. Strong feelings for this person began to grow but the Holy Ghost would not let my heart be settled with him. His thinking process, his beliefs, and his actions rubbed the Spirit of God in me the wrong way.
Do not ignore the warning the Spirit gives. Women often end up getting pulled out of the church instead of pulling the man in. If he does attend a few church services don’t start rejoicing yet. He may ask you to do some things in return for his visits to your church. Things you know is not in God’s will. I’ll skip the details. Summed up, it’s called compromise.
Realizing that the end result of this relationship would conclude in me loving a man that doesn’t love God, finally put the brakes on for me. If I gave my life and my time to this man with no hope for a future in Christ with him, I would end up hurt, alone, and separated from God. You can tell in the first few conversations you have with an unbelieving man whether or not he’s going to be real about his pursuits toward God and the church. Until he decides to get real, you better get separated.
Don’t be unequally yoked.
And be careful of the advice you get when it comes to dating and courtship. Line up the advice you receive with the Word of God. If the advice is contrary, don’t follow it! I say this because others will want to help you help God.
Newsflash: God does not need our help.
Don’t be troubled about the timing of God’s deliverance. When has He ever failed? Don’t compromise the special thing you and God have going on. The cost is too high. We’re talking about your integrity, soul, and happiness here.
Be inflexible and adamant about waiting on the Lord for true love.
He will be worth the wait!
Uncompromising and standing on the promises of God,
Miss Love In Waiting