It’s not easy but it’s worth it. Saving oneself for marriage that is.
My blog differs from other singles blogs in that I believe whole heartedly in the Biblical ideal of marriage. Having sex outside of marriage is not God’s plan for a man and a woman. God said that marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. Now from this point on I’ve probably lost a lot of readers, but I have to be real with what I believe.
I’ve heard my fair share of reasons for sex outside of marriage. “We’re just so in love”, says one. “We’re going to get married anyway”, says another. “As long as we are only committed to having sex with each other, we’re not hurting anyone else”, says many more. These are all seemingly intelligent, logical, and heartfelt explanations.
But allow me to offer reasons to wait. There are hundreds. Here are just a few…
- It is the will of God. Many Christians hang their faith outside the bedroom door. It can be easy to do. You love this person. They love you. The chemistry and attraction is there. The mood is romantic and all of a sudden Ephesians 5:3 can not be recalled to memory. Sex is a natural way to express love. It is the way God designed it. However, Christian women and men should remember that He designed these feelings to be shared between husband and wife. This is not a hidden mystery.
- A crowded bed is uncomfortable. When sex becomes casual and a normal part of dating, monogamy is thrown out the window. This means two parties are not only sleeping with each other, but everyone else they’ve slept with, and everyone their exes slept with, and so on. Makes the king size bed feel like a hammock, doesn’t it?
- Sexually transmitted diseases don’t discriminate. Enough said.
- “Well, Susie used to do it this way.” Ugh! Good grief! Do we really want to compare or be compared to ex sexual partners? Talk about taking the passion and romance out of what is supposed to be an intimate and precious act.
- I did this for you. Now how excited will your husband be to know that you saved yourself just for him. Before you knew him, you believed that he was out there somewhere. You knew he’d be worth the wait. He would completely commit to you by placing his ring on your hand. He would love more than just your body, but passionately love your soul and spirit. This man will honor and respect your relationship with God. He would cherish your thoughts and the very essence of who God created you to be. Don’t you know this man is out there? I knew mine was. Couldn’t you, wouldn’t you, desire in your heart to save yourself for this man?
And before you say, “It’s too late for me to save myself”, God has restoration power.
He offers the power to regenerate your soul and heal you from all the wounds that fornication leaves behind. Please do not be deceived. Sex outside of marriage will wound you. But after regeneration, God gives the opportunity to start again and not make the same mistakes of yesterday.
The first shall be last and the last shall be first.
Firsts are supposed to be special. Everything from our first day of school to our first car, are memories to be cherished for a lifetime. Waiting until the wedding night to make love to the man of your dreams will be a memory that will never be forgotten. Waiting through the time of courtship will increase the intimacy and allow couples to know each other on otherwise overlooked dimensions. And above all things, God will honor the union that He has put together. Concerns of did I make a mistake, will he call tomorrow, will he still respect me, what if my coworkers find out, do I know enough about his sexually history….are gone. Honor your body. Let him be your first, your only, and prayerfully your last.
Ye are not your own.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost (which is) in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
God bless you in your saving and waiting,
Miss Love in Waiting