As a single woman I’ve suffered from the following aches and pains:
And it’s okay…you can smile.
- Your biological clock is ticking while your high school friend’s oldest son prepares for college.
- Your thirty-something and still not quite sure where to put your hands when holding a baby.
- Someone calls you an old maid and later that evening you find a new wrinkle.
- Your nineteen year old cousin asks, “Remember when I was little and you asked me to be your flower girl?”
- People assume that there must be something wrong with YOU. You explain that it’s not your fault. They don’t believe you.
- You tell friends and family that you have a new boyfriend and they rejoice like you’ve just won the publishers clearance house sweepstakes. As if the odds were that much against you.
- Over the years you’ve caught your fair share of bridal bouquets. So now when a bride tosses the bouquet to the single ladies, you go for another piece of cake instead.
Think I’m making this stuff up? (Smile) Praise God I can laugh about it now.
Every now and then being single may be painful. But I had to keep in mind that being single is as challenging as I’ve allowed it to be. All those things listed above are part of my “single” story. Sometimes I chose to laugh and sometimes I chose to pout; even though none was really more tragic than the other (except maybe the wrinkle thing). Writing about them now tickles me and with some tweaking could be great material for a late night talk show monologue. However, my main point is that it’s up to us individually to create enough joy in our life that it heals the stings, pinches, and pains aimed at our heart (and ego).
Translate from being pathetically single to being single with a purpose!
Jump in the deep end of your gifts and talents. Gain strength and confidence in who God is and who He has created you to be. It matters less what others think about your situation and more how God has your situation under control.
Sometimes I just look to the heavens and say, “Okay, Lord…here I am. I don’t know how and I don’t know when, but I’m determined to trust in You. You know my need. You know the desires of my heart. I will be grateful because many would love to be in my shoes today. I am blessed and I’m surrounded by friends and family who love me. ” Let God know how much you appreciate what He’s already done in your life. Count those blessings and the aches of singleness will fade and heal. Besides thanks and appreciation makes room for more blessings!
Thanks for sharing a few laughs with me this post.
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Yours in Christ,
Miss Love In Waiting