My eHarmony Online Dating Experience

Since eHarmony was offering a free communication I thought I would share my experience with eHarmony and online dating. 

Our world has come a long way when it comes to this once scandalous way of meeting new people.  Some still believe that finding love online is disreputable while others are stepping outside the box, taking the plunge into the arena of online dating.

And in spite of my own apprehensions, my curiosity got the best of me.  I tried it for myself and as you can see, I support it.  I did not find the love of my life but I make some wonderful friends and great ministry connections.  

There are some online dating sites that can be impersonal with little opportunity for a real connection. But that does not mean that all dating sites should be lumped into this category.

So what can I share from my eHarmony online dating experience in case you also wonder if online dating may work for you?

Searching within Christian niche dating sites worked best for me, but still you have to look deeper into each individual’s relationship with God.  There are many who are religious but still have not found their way to true salvation.  It is not too different from meeting someone at church.  Just because they sit in the pews every Sunday does not testify to their knowledge of God.

[singlepic id=20 w=260 h=180 float=left]Online dating sites gave me an opportunity to make connections that otherwise would never have happened.  My initial perspective was to join a site and fall in love.  After all it is happening more and more all of the time.  But after some time I broadened my outlook.  I was meeting wonderful men of God but not making a love connection.  That may seem frustrating, but God had another plan for me.  Although we were not making love connections, I gained spiritual and true friendships.  These friendships birthed and enhanced my ministry.  You never know where the blessings of God will come from.

Yes, I recognize that when you are single, friendships are not always the priority.  However, as a single person, fellowship is consequently good!  You never know how connecting and fellowship will work in your favor.  You may meet someone, who is cousins with someone that used to know someone, who is an uncle to someone that is the one that God kept for YOU!  Or yet, you could meet someone online and fall in love instantly.  Ultimately, let God write your love story.

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I list eHarmony online dating as one of my favorites because of its level of privacy.  Since I was a little shy about this process, eHarmony’s system of meeting someone made it comfortable for me.  At that time the cost was on the high end but it is worth every penny.  And because of eHarmony’s price points, I felt assured that I was meeting individuals who were serious about making a long term and loving connection. 

You do not have to surf through thousands of pictures and profiles.  There are no sophomoric winks or pokes.  Members complete a questionnaire that reveals more than just your hobbies, race, age, and gender.   eHarmony matches you with individuals that are compatible with your core values, belief system, and more. 

Members are also able to move communication along with others at their own pace.  eHarmony allows its users to keep certain information private in the beginning stages of communication.  Just like meeting someone offline, you can disclose details about your life as you feel comfortable.

If you are unsure how to begin, eHarmony assists with this too!  The site provides several thought provoking questions to ask or you can ask your own.  When you are ready, you can move to open communication and exchange extensive email conversations until you are ready to move forward again.   At any time if a match is not going so well, you can kindly close communication with that individual.

Are there precautions you must take?  Yes.  Even if you are using a secure dating Christian site, you have to stay on guard for the bad guys & gals that mean you no good.  Con artist exist online and offline.  Protect yourself and be as cautious as you would if you were allowing someone new to come into your home. 

Always seek God about everything.  Online dating may not be for everyone based on how one is lead in prayer.  Always pray.

Remember, it is okay if things are not working out the way you would like.  Understand that you are taking action in networking, connecting, and meeting people.  God still has the final say and according to His sovereign will, the time will come when it is right.  No different than offline connecting, it seems to work the same as old fashioned dating. It takes patience, work, and time

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God bless and thanks for reading!!!


4 thoughts on “My eHarmony Online Dating Experience

  1. Great post. I always wondered by online dating and never gone the nerve to try it. I figured if it was hard meeting someone in person, then it must be even harder meeting someone on-line. Finding a soul mate is not easy, which is why the man is supposed to find the wife as stated in Proverbs 18:21″ He that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor for the Lord”. It’s hard to wait though and many people get tired of waiting and then they starting looking on their own. It’s interesting to see your take on the internet dating and your experience with it and I definitely don’t want to pay for no dating service when God will send me a mate for free.

    1. Thank you for your comment. I pray not to have offended you or any other reader. With online dating and social media on the rise I simply wanted to share my experience. The ultimate result of my time online was a beneficial one. Perhaps not in the way advertised, but I have no regrets when I consider how God has blessed me through the fellowship. I would not be writing today. I was not sure what a Podcast was. I would not be reaching out to other singles. I would not have the technical knowledge I now need to serve my church. The internet has its perils but without it I would not know my blessed friends in Alabama, Arizona, Canada, or Pennsylvania. Again this was my end result of online dating…not to be promised to everyone we know.

      Today more people are using free outlets like social media. Back then (many years ago now), it was not as popular. Yes, God has given the duty of finding a mate to the man, yet I see no ill in a woman placing herself in a position to be found. If she is found offline, she has placed herself in position as well…serving God, working in the vineyard, fellowshipping with other believers…her presence is known.

      Again my heart is not to mislead anyone. My motive initially was to find love but I eventually used this process as a tool to meet people and make friends.

      Thank you and God bless sis!

  2. I think it may be an ok alternative if nothing else has worked out to meet and date a mate.Its not always fun waiting esp if you are past 30 and see yourself with a family.its just a different way of meeting people and seeing what happens.doesn’t mean you don’t trust god.I agree that meeting out in the real world/offline like at an event or school,friends is better and I still hope that will be a story I get to tell soon ot that we met on eharmony.But who knows.

    1. Thank you for you comment. I agree that offline is better. The key is faith and trust in God. He is the best match maker I know. 🙂 Keep holding on and be encouraged. Waiting is not always fun but in God there is relief and healing. He is able to transform our hearts so that we can see and take full advantage of every blessing while we are waiting. God bless you!

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