Choosing God’s Best by guest blogger Nicole Miller
Nine years ago God told me if I wait I will have His best. That was the same day my ex was getting married. That was the same day I felt so alone, like I was losing in life. Over the course of these nine years, I have struggled with these feelings. I have battled with knowing my worth and value. I have wrestled with the belief that God’s best was out there waiting for me.
And to believe that I was worth the best of God.
I would hear people say “don’t settle” and “he or she was worth the wait” when they found their spouse after years of waiting, but what did that really mean? What did God’s best for me really look like? What was the harm in settling?
For many years, God’s best looked like a lot of unmet desires, waiting and trying not to succumb to temptations. It looked like friends getting married and accomplishing one milestone after another and moving forward in life, while I was stuck. Waiting. That was my view of singleness. I did not understand how singleness could be a gift. I saw that I was blessed with community, love and support. I saw that my intimacy with God was flourishing and His Personhood was being revealed in every step I took forward on His path. But I did not understand how this part of my life was His best. How singleness was His best for me.
Although I obeyed God and let go of the man I loved, I was too afraid to entrust something as dear to my heart as waiting for His best. Yes I loved God and wanted to obey and did believe Him on some level when He promised me His best. But years of singleness skewed my vision.
God knew that what I had given up for Him (my relationship), did not compare to what I was holding on to.
So He meticulously orchestrated a path that would test the heart and reveal what I was struggling to hide in its’ secret chambers during the course of this nine year stretch.
Hebrews 4:13 “And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account”.
The benefit of being single for an extended period of time for those who desire marriage (and are called to marriage), is that time offers space for growth. Not all grow in time, but all will have the opportunity to do so. God gives maturity and wisdom for those who desire it and I desired it. I did not know that the reason I could not see singleness as His best, and the reason I was so afraid to trust Him for the best man for me, was simply because I was still seeing from a less mature perspective (as well as not understanding my own value to Him).
I Corinthians 13:11 “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things”.
I did not see God’s best because I did not see with His eyes. My vision was blurred with pain of surrender and sacrifice. I did not see the fullness of His gift. I only saw in part.
Now as I mature and grow, I see more of the big picture. I understand more of His purpose and plan and that His choices in my life are really for my own best interest and are His way of protecting me from unnecessary pain. I hope that You can say the same. He is not the withholder of good things, but stores up His best for those who love Him. And He loves to save His best for last.
His mother said to the servants, “Whatever He says to you, do it.”
Now there were set there six waterpots of stone, according to the manner of purification of the Jews, containing twenty or thirty gallons apiece. Jesus said to them, “Fill the waterpots with water.” And they filled them up to the brim. And He said to them, “Draw some out now, and take it to the master of the feast.” And they took it. When the master of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, and did not know where it came from (but the servants who had drawn the water knew), the master of the feast called the bridegroom. And he said to him, “Every man at the beginning sets out the good wine, and when the guests have well drunk, then the inferior. You have kept the good wine until now
~ Author and Blogger, Nicole Miller
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