Stay In Your Lane by Makeda Russell

Stay In Your Lane

by Guest Writer: Makeda Russell

I believe it is an important life lesson for us to ‘Stay in our lane’, as we run our race in life. The words that I am about to share is nothing new. It’s something you might have heard before, so, it’s just a reminder to encourage us in whatever season we are experiencing at the moment.

As we journey through this life, at some point in time we might focus our attention or take a glance at what God is doing in someone else’s life. It’s a natural tendency of man. Nothing is wrong with this, depending on the nature of our heart.

But today I would just like to encourage you my sisters and my brothers. Whether you are in your season of singleness or in your season of marriage, never get caught up with what God is doing for someone else or how God is blessing someone else; that we become discouraged in our own circumstance. Or, that we miss our own blessing or do not take the time out to prepare ourselves for our own blessings to come.

It’s not about what God is doing in someone else’s life….It’s about YOU.

It’s about how He (God) is dealing with you my sister; how He is dealing with you my brother. What is God doing for YOU? (not everyone else), what is God speaking to YOU? (not everyone else). Everybody’s story is different…different plot, different setting, different characters etc., and this is something that we must see for ourselves and walk in it without looking for familiarity or validation.

Let’s get comfortable with our own portion. You see, when our mind or our spirit is on everyone else and what God is doing for them, then we are not ready to run our race.  We can never run our race, when we are not in our own lane.

So yes, we might be 30, 40, 50 years old and is still waiting for marriage or some other blessing in our lives, but I encourage you, to stay in your lane…whatever it is you’re waiting on God to do, it’s your lane my friend- stay in it.

One of the things personally for me is that, whenever I am waiting for God to bless me, I always look for familiarity… so, is there another sister out there who has a similar story to mine and God came through for her? Or is there a sister out there who has a similar story and she too is waiting for God to bless her?

I tend to cling to familiarity and there’s nothing wrong with that, matter a fact it was in searching on YouTube for a familiar story in singleness, that I was blessed to have met Candra… (Thank you Lord). So you see, there is nothing wrong in searching for familiarity because it does bless us and encourage us.

But in keeping in our lane, sometimes, just sometimes my friend, there just won’t be familiarity; there just won’t be another story like ours or maybe not in the sense that we are looking for it, so through prayer we have to learn to glory in our own garden and trust God that He will make something beautiful out of it, despite how it might look now.

Jeremiah 29:11(Good News Translation) says, ‘I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring you about the future you hope for.’

2nd Timothy 4:7 (KJV), ‘I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith.’

Let’s fight that fight, finish our course and keep the faith my friend, as we run this particular leg of our race.

God Bless.

Makeda Russell is a 32 year Christian Single. She has never been married and is waiting on God for her God-ordained husband. 🙂

Makeda is not a professional writer but a school teacher by profession. She teaches grade six at her school in Jamaica. 

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No Ordinary Stories

No Ordinary Stories by guest blogger, Farah J.

No Ordinary Stories by Farah
Written by guest blogger, Farah, from Rising with the Son

God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! (Ephesians 3:20 MSG)

I love reading. I’m especially keen for books whose authors find new and appealing ways to tell their stories, stories that capture my attention and have me reading for hours. But the moment I pick up a book that has an ordinary and expected story line, I’m just as eager to put it back on the shelf.

What kind of story is your life telling? Is it an exciting and exceptional story, or a boring and ordinary one? We all have a story to tell and good readers can tell who the author of our story is.

People who have the same story line as everyone else around them, are often the ones who are writing their own stories. These are the stories that, sad to say, I’m done reading. They’re just ordinary and boring. I know how they all end. But people whose stories are being written by God, now these are stories that get me excited and curious. I want to know how they end.

God is a great writer. Just read the Bible and you’ll see for yourself. Its ancient stories have been reread and retold for many generations simply because their author is God.

Who isn’t curious to find out what happens to Abraham as he lays Isaac on the altar, or Daniel as he is thrown in the lion’s den? Not to mention the encouragement and inspiration we get from reading these stories. And mind you, they’re not a bunch of fairy tales, they’re real stories, written by a real God.

God would love to write your life story, so that it can do the same for others. Please give Him the pen back and let Him write a great story that everyone would want to read.

No Ordinary Stories by Farah J.I’m an empty page/I’m an open book/Write Your story on my heart/Come on and make Your mark/Author of my hope/Maker of the stars/Let me be Your work of art/Won’t You write Your story on my heart –Francesca Battistelli, “Write Your Story”

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Share Your Story and Hold Up a Weary Hand

Share Your Story and Hold Up a Weary HandShare Your Story and Hold Up a Weary Hand

 

Would you like to share your story to inspire Christian singles?

  • What relationship lessons have you learned?
  • How have you grown in God during the season of singleness?
  • Got a funny first date story that will make someone smile?
  • Have parenting tips for the single mom?
  • Can you encourage Christian singles over 40?

Even in times when we feel we have nothing much to contribute, we are in fact affecting the lives of others all around us.

But Moses’ hands grew weary, so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it, while Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side. So his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. (Exodus 17:12 ESV)

It doesn’t take great feats to help someone else on their journey. Aaron and Hur simply supported the hands of Moses. They lifted his hands high when Moses became weary. As long as the hands of Moses were held up, Joshua and Israel prevailed.

For the last 7 years or so I have shared many stories of my Christian single journey. However, I truly believe that the greatest words of inspiration have come from you.

Many have chosen to share your story through guest blogging and comments. I have read every one and so have others. These words have been gems to the weary heart.

My prayer is that Abundantly You continue to be a strong platform for inspiration for singles. But that will not happen without you.

I am currently looking for writers/guest bloggers to contribute to Abundantly You. You do not have to be a blogger or professional writer to contribute. We’ve all had battles to overcome. We are all fighting some kind of battle now.

Lend your voice and hold up a weary hand.

 

Share Your Story and Hold Up a Weary Hand

Your guest post is not restricted to the subject of singleness. Anything that will empower, make us think, or make us laugh is welcome.

In return I want to promote what you are doing in the Kingdom of God. Perhaps you would like to share your blog, book or other accomplishments. I welcome your words!

I will share 2 to 3 links within your article or in your bio that will lead Abundantly You readers to where you are. Share your business, your book, etc. Share your story.

If you feel more comfortable sharing your story anonymously, that is fine too. 🙂

Here’s a quick rundown of guest post guidelines:

  • A minimum of 500 words
  • Include a short bio (Optional)
  • Include a photo (Optional)
  • Include your web site or social media link (Optional)
  • All guest posts, articles, and linked pages will be vetted to make sure it aligns with the heart of Abundantly You.

God bless you all and I look forward to hearing from you! Submit your article(s) to gospelnewmedia@gmail.com. Feel free to email me with any questions or to simply chat!

Love you to life!
~Candra Evans
Abundantly You for Christian Singles and More

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How Can I Find Contentment

How Can I Find Contentment - Part 1
How can I find contentment?

How Can I Find Contentment

About this time 7 years ago, I was 34 and finally content with the single life. I still wanted very much to be married, but God delivered me from the anxiety of it all.

After a few hurtful crushes, dating catastrophes, and years of not dating at all, I had a good sit down with myself.

Better yet, I had a good sit down with God. Actually it was more that I was sprawled out on the floor soaking my carpet with tears.

Sometimes you know exactly what you need to do, but you have no idea where to begin. This is the place where most people resort to repeating the same bad habits. It’s unfulfilling, but it’s familiar. That was me for a long time.

Then I realized that the rare jewel of contentment wouldn’t just fall in my lap. I wanted God to rain contentment down on me like a heavy rain. You know those storms where the wind blows the rain sideways? I wanted contentment to come like that, sideways into my heart. Then all would be well with my soul.

But I have found that growing in any area of life takes work. Even faith without works is dead.

You have to take action to lose weight. It takes work to maintain healthy relationships. You have to work hard to become successful. A teacher once told me that anything worth having is worth working for.

Contentment is worth having.

Again and again I read, ” But godliness with contentment is great gain” (1 Timothy 6:6). But once again, where do I start?

What shook me to my core was the fact that I had spent years doing nothing but idly waiting for something wonderful. I went to work. I went to college. I went to church. But overall, I didn’t have a real life. Is it any wonder I struggled to be content?

After my “face to the floor” encounter with God, I humbly asked the question. How can I find contentment? After serving God for many years already, it seemed like a dumb question. I should know this already. But I honestly had no idea.

In my most depressed state, the Holy Spirit directed me to live…not exist, but live the life I was given. Singleness has no bearing on abundant living unless I allowed it.

So I made deliberate changes in my life. Every action was prayerfully calculated. If I wanted a different result, I had to work to make a change. For example, I had to stop twirling my head around every time the church door opened hoping that it was Brother So-and-So.

The main take away of this post is not that if you do what I did, you’ll find contentment too. The bottom line is you have to be willing to put your faith to work. If you’re not happy, ask God for direction and do something about it.

There was more than just singleness holding me back from true contentment.

Marriage is not the only cure for a discontent single. Sometimes marriage isn’t a cure at all. God is so much bigger than that, and He loves you so much more.

At the age of 30 I made the following changes to my single life. Some are big while others are minimal. But each plan of action calculated to form a more content frame of mind… as long as I remained consistent. And to be honest, it wasn’t always easy. But that’s okay. 🙂

  1. I started a fitness journey. A healthy body leads to a healthier frame of mind.
  2. I separated myself from toxic people. This meant that I stood out on my own for a while but at the end of the day…..Yay!
  3. I started a regular prayer and fasting schedule. Healing, truth, direction, love, and joy is all in the presence of God. If I had to prayer every hour, then so be it.
  4. I did more intercessory praying (Because it’s not all about me.)
  5. I started writing. It was therapeutic and gave me clarity.
  6. I engaged in Social Media which turned into blessed offline connections.
  7. I went through Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University. This taught me self-control.
  8. I read a book or two. (I know this is an insult to book lovers, but back then I only read the Bible.) Anyone else love Lynn Austin?
  9. I made friends with like-minded singles (with both men and women). Their persistence to please God kept me inspired.
  10. I became more active in serving others. This taught me gratefulness.
  11. I started a Podcast which taught me how to open up and talk freely. Plus it was just plain fun.
  12. I started my journey to running a thousand 5K races (Actually I really don’t keep count, but I’ve run bunches. 🙂 )
  13. I started a blog or 2…okay I’ve had about 6.
  14. I discovered a love for road trips and travel. To this day there are things I never would have experienced if I hadn’t traveled solo.
  15. I spent more time with those that had my best interest at heart. I learned to not take them for granted.

After about 4 years of truly living, I was invited to meet my Ronnie. And wouldn’t you know it; I turned the invitation down. That was a bad choice on my part but I just didn’t feel the dating pressure that once was my normal.

Fortunately God is loving enough to lead me to blessings when I’m a little slow. 🙂  God knew that my attention was elsewhere so hallelujah for second chances!

I received a second Facebook message to meet Ronnie and that time I said yes.

Fast forward 7 years later. Ronnie and I will be celebrating our 5th marriage anniversary in August. We are still happily married are content to stay together into eternity.

The irony of it all is that even though my prayer to marry was answered, finding contentment is something that I still work for.

The trials of life come calling on everyone’s door. But through Jesus Christ and active faith, the jewel of contentment is revealed.

 

~Candra

How can I Find Contentment… First published on Abundantly You for Christian Singles and More

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Stop Settling For Placeholder Relationships by Kenny Pugh

Stop Settling For Placeholder Relationships by Kenny Pugh

I wanted to share some food for thought today.

The term placeholder relationships is fairly new to me. However, it’s certainly not a new thing.

How long should you hang on to a relationship that isn’t going anywhere? I truly believe in dating with purpose. But what if the one you’re investing time in, wants a play date and not a soul mate?

On this journey of singleness many find themselves in and out of relationships. It’s crucial to know when to let go and how to hear the voice of God.

Our church small group for singles has adopted Kenny Pugh’s book, “Can You Do It Standing Up? – A Different Position on Relationships” for our featured book read this quarter.

I’ve enjoyed this text so much that I decided to follow Mr. Pugh on some of his social networks. In doing so I found this video sharing his thoughts and words of wisdom regarding placeholder relationships.

Listen in and let me know your thoughts!

Our small group meets every 2nd and 4th Monday at 6:30 PM. If you’re in the Cincinnati area stop in and fellowship with us!

Greater Community Church
3590 Alaska Avenue
Cincinnati, Ohio 45237

Can You Do It Standing Up? A Different Position on Relationships: Insight To Help You Make Better Relationship Decisions

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~Candra Evans

Abundantly You for Christian Singles and More

Abundantly You Inc welcomes guest bloggers to come, write, and share! If you would like to write for Abundantly You or invite Candra to speak at your event, submit your information on our contact page.

Saved and Single Conference Call | Becoming Whole Before Becoming One

Saved and SingleSaved and Single Conference Call | Becoming Whole Before Becoming One

Join me and my friend Rob the M.A.C. (Man After Christ) this Saturday, January 23rd at 7:07 PM (Central Time Zone) for the next saved and single conference call!

If you’re single and marriage-minded, wholeness is crucial to having the love story you dream of. God’s ways and thoughts are higher than ours. Join us as we discuss His ways to wholeness and His thoughts for marriage.

Rob the M.A.C.

Rob is a saved, single minister and musician.  His resume includes a Master in Counseling/Psychology and a Bachelor’s in Computer Information Systems. In 2008 he published his album, “88 Keys of Dreams”. He is a Guidance Technology Specialist, model, actor and producer recently featured on “Atlanta Live.”

Every second and fourth Saturday Rob hosts singles from around the world in God’s Word and prayer. It is a blessed time of encouragement and fellowship.

Click the links below to learn more about Rob and his ministries! You don’t want to miss it!

This Week’s Topic:   Becoming Whole Before Becoming One
Speaker:                       Minister Candra Evans

Saturday, January 23, 2016 at 7:07 PM Central Time Zone

Singles Prayer Conference Dial In Information:
Dial in number:  605-475-4875
Access Code:     767712#

 

Up Coming Topics on the Saved and Single Conference Call:
Bootleg Mate

www.robthemac.com

www.savedandsingle.info

 

Purchase the S&S Word, Prayer and Affirmation CD – Vol I

CD Baby

http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/savedandsinglewordprayer

iTunes

https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/saved-single-word-prayer-affirmation/id780060643

 

And don’t forget to share the news of the Abundantly You apparel line! Click to reserve your order today. Ten shirts must be reserved before we can go to print.

 

~Candra Evans

Abundantly You for Christian Singles and More

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