Our Love Story

couple-kissing-with-heart-signOur love story begins August 27th, 2009 with a Facebook message from my friend Bryan.

“Hey…long time. Random question…r u still single? Dating? I absolutely know u’d be perfect for my brother……”

On this day and at this moment I was the queen of Christian contentment.  I was thirty-four years old and for the first time in a long time I was happy with my single life. 

After reading his message my mind went back to several months before, when I found myself on the floor in tears.  My self-esteem was battered and I was so depressed that I physically could not stand up.  I laid there lonely, sad, and afraid that I would never have a love I could call my own.

My hope was delayed and my faith was failing. The sorrow was overwhelming and Satan tried to take the advantage.

My heart was a battlefield.   

Love of any kind seemed unattainable. I frequently asked, “What is wrong with me?” 

I never imagined I would be single for so long, and I questioned my purpose and my reason for being in this world. I was under the delusion that the acceptance of others (especially a man) justified my worth.  

Changing my attitude and walking by faith was a choice that I had to make alone. It was up to me to embrace an abundant life with or without a man. 

That day on the floor would be my last and I waged war in the Spirit for my healing.  


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After months of prayers, fasting, and worship, the Lord delivered my heart. He transformed my mind and the joy of contentment was mine!

So there I sat on 27th of August, reading Bryan’s words again and again.

I was content, growing in God, and living abundantly on purpose. There was no time for distractions or games.  I was so happy in Jesus and loving my single life that I did not want to waste time on another dead-end romance. 

I was done searching.  All the love I needed, I was getting from God. 

About the only way I would find myself falling in love, is if the Lord dropped a man from the sky.

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On August 27th …He kind of did. (Smile) 


“Hey…long time. Random question…r u still single? Dating? I absolutely know u’d be perfect for my brother……”


Not yet sensing an approval from God, I replied back that I was not interested. 

But Bryan and his wife were persistent to get us together.  So I said it would be okay for his brother to give me a call. 

After all, fear no longer ruled my life so why not go on one little date?  I knew I was not the same woman I was before.  Before, I would come home and sulk if a date went sour. But this time I could be satisfied to meet someone new and enjoy a nice dinner.

Bryan’s brother and I played phone tag until finally on a Monday night around 10 pm I answered to the sound of this amazing voice asking for me. We talked for a little while and he asked me to have dinner with him the following Thursday. Our Love Story - Ronald Evans

 His name was Ronald Evans, Jr.

He was 39 years old, a firefighter,

rental property owner, and a pastor.

When he knocked on my apartment door that evening, I was ready to have an enjoyable night out.  It didn’t matter if love would be in the air or not.  I was going to have fun and appreciate whatever God had in store for us.  I gave myself a pep talk earlier in the day.

“You are beautiful.  You are blessed. 

If this is not a love connection, it IS okay. 

God has you in His hands and at the appointed time you will receive the answer to your prayer.  If you have a good time, praise God, and if you don’t have a good time, praise God.  It is because of Him that you have abundant life and nothing can keep true love from you.”

Our Love StoryAfter taking in a deep breath, I opened the door to an incredible smile, kind eyes, and hands outstretched.  I then exhaled in his arms as he gave me a warm embrace.

We spent the evening eating, talking, laughing, and cruising around the city. I tried but I could not resist falling in love. He was charming, handsome, funny, and wise beyond his years.

I thought that somehow I would lose sight of my “Christian single woman power” if I fell in love. But there was no sorrow and nothing to fear.

God opened the door for me to trust and fall in love. 

So I did…knowing that as I was falling, God was still with me, …and He sent Ronnie to catch me. 

I knew when Ronnie walked away from my apartment that night, that I would see him again and be with him for the rest of my life.

On September 21st, 2009, Ronnie asked if we could make our relationship exclusive…no more looking…no more searching…no more waiting… God said, “It’s time.” 

Our Love Story Church WeddingDecember 8th, 2010, Ronnie proposed. On his knee he presented a diamond ring and a bag full of Hershey’s Kisses (It was our symbol of physical love until fully expressed on our wedding night.) 

I became Mrs. Candra Evans on August 20th, 2011. 

We honor God because this is not our love story, alone.  God has been united with us since the beginning.  Our love story is His creation.

Be encouraged in your single walk with God. Nothing can keep true love from you if your life remains in the hands of our Heavenly Father. Let God write your love story.

Who knew this one Facebook message would change our lives forever….


“Hey…long time. Random question…r u still single?


I absolutely know u’d be perfect for my brother……”


Our Wedding Day 

Candra (Brightwell) Evans, formerly… Miss Love In Waiting

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33 thoughts on “Our Love Story

  1. This is sooooo sweet. I’m single and this just gives me hope that God has got this!
    Thank you for sharing your stories and creating this blog
    May God bless your marriage

  2. This is such a beautiful story. It’s a reminder to stay strong in our faith. If things are meant to be, God will make them happen in his own timing:)

  3. Thank you for this story….I have been having those teary moments alot lately and somehow your story kinda confirms that Jesus has not forgotten me…He’s got my back:)

    1. Thank you for reading and for leaving such a beautiful comment. Trust in the Lord with all of your heart. No one knows and understands our story like God. 🙂

  4. Just want to say that this is such an inspiring post for me and thank you for sharing this to all of us! It’s really awesome when God is the one who writes love stories!

  5. Thanks for your sweet testimony. I also long for someone with faith that God is preparing for me. May your family be full with Blessings. ^^

  6. I remember you sharing this love story at our singles conference in St. Louis. It’s still beautiful and you are still giving me hope. At the age of “almost” 30, it gets scary, especially when folks that are younger than you are getting engage. However, i will stay prayerful and work on being content with my singleness.

    1. Thank you so much. Your life and testimony is inspirational as well. Speaking as one who will be 40 very soon, you are still very young. Truth be told, I have enjoyed my 30’s much more than my 20’s. At 30 you come into your own and start to really discover who you and who God wants you to be. It was a very exciting time for me and I know it will be for you as well. It’s a season to establish yourself as a powerful woman God and prepare for the powerful man of God He has kept just for you.

  7. God truly answers prayer. He made everything beautiful in its perfect time.

    im l patiently waiting for the Lord to grant mine.
    thank you for sharing your beautiful love story. indeed, im blessed with it.:)

  8. I was needing encouragement in my singleness and God lead me to your blog. I was amazed at how much I could relate to your story with some of the struggles and being single for longer than you expect. Thanks for sharing how God orchestrated your love story. It gives me encouragement that I’m not alone (still single at 31 almost 32) and God will answer in his timing. Thanks again!

    1. God bless you Ashley! I’m so glad you found my story. It’s been four years now and still I say that I would wait all over again for a marriage like this! 🙂 God is so good and so faithful to His promises.

  9. Thank you for sharing your story Candra. It is very uplifting=) May God bless you and Ronnie more so that you can also continue being a blessing to others=)

  10. This is an awesome story! Really touched me to read your candid thoughts/feelings along with how God moved. Gave me hope for my future husband and I pray (when he comes along) I will be able to share it in the same way you’ve shared your story. May God continue to bless you and your family!

  11. Thank u, your story found me hurting because i was in a relationship but i still felt soooo single than i was before. Am now strong for ma future because God holds it. I love you, God bless.

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