Christian Dating by chaseGodtv

Christian Dating by chaseGodtv

Courtship Christian DatingSo I stumbled upon this YouTube video and found it fitting for our 30 day series on Christian Dating and Courtship. I will clarify more tomorrow on how I define Christian dating and courtship. There are many strong views on how each term should or should not apply to saved Christians. Ultimately the purpose and intention for the start of a Christian romance should be marriage. This video is a few years old but very relevant to issues and questions regarding Christian dating today. A few topics and questions addressed in this video are…

  • Why doesn’t the Bible say more about dating and courtship?
  • The importance of intentionality
  • How do you know if you are ready to be in a relationship with someone?
  • When is it time to bring a long-term dating relationship to an end?

Joe, from chaseGodtv, touches on a variety of Christian dating topics. Watch through to the end. You’ll enjoy.

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The Voice Of God | Dating & Courtship

voice of GodThe Voice of God | Dating and Courtship

 

Make me to know your ways, O Lord; teach me your paths. Lead me in your truth and teach me, for you are the God of my salvation;

for you I wait all the day long. – Psalm 25:4-5 ESV

A new relationship begins with a first date and if all is well, will transition into courtship. This is what we wait for, but our prayers should not cease. This is where you take your prayers to another level and seek the voice the God.

In the dating and courtship phases of a relationship, there is much transition. You’re learning about each other. You’re investigating his heart and reflecting on what you really need.

At no point in romance should you release the Holy Ghost from leading you. There are always questions that must be answered and situations that must be discerned.

As much as we would like to get caught up in the carnal side of things, our prayer should always be for God’s will to be done. As much as we might think we know how to approach a romantic relationship, keep your heart open to the voice of God.

The voice of God will…

  • Help you discern prospective problems in the relationship
  • Give you the wisdom and strength to address any red flags
  • Teach you how to minister to the soul of your new love
  • Instruct on how to be a spiritual blessing in your relationship
  • Guide you in forming healthy relationships with his family and friends
  • Speak to your heart and strengthen you when conflict occurs

There is nothing that we go through in life, that God does not understand. All is addressed in the Word of God. The Holy Scriptures is another way that we can know God’s ways and hear His heart. If we study we gain knowledge of the how’s, when’s, where’s, and why’s of life. God will reveal the knowledge we need for the moment.

Wait for the voice of God to give you insight and instruction. It is worth waiting for. The voice of God will give you wisdom more valuable than silver and gold. In her (wisdom) hands are long life, riches and honor. (Proverbs 3:16)

If you’ve been praying a long time for a husband, don’t stop praying when your future husband comes. Relationships will not always be perfect because, quite frankly, people are not perfect. The divorce rate shows that we prove ourselves fallible in choosing the right mate and making love last.

However, the voice of God is greater than our own. His approach to love and relationships is perfect. Let us know and put into practice His ways.

Let God say yes, before you say yes. Let God say no, before you say no. Follow God in His truth and you will be abundantly blessed!

 

Love, Peace, and Blessings,

~Candra
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Something New

Something New

 

It’s exciting to start something new. It brings an opportunity to reset, refresh and move forward.

When it comes to our relationships (new or old), God’s Word is a guide to us… so that we do not stumble or compromise our place in Him.

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? –

2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV)

The above Bible verse is a popular one among the saved and single community. Although this text is relative to all types of relationships, the focused relationship is usually the romantic one.

Still I wonder how early in a relationship should this verse be considered. Most Christian singles desire to marry someone who is also a believer and active in the Kingdom of God.

However, when it comes to dating, the boundaries are often stretched to include anyone that shows interest in us. I see it often. You probably do too.

I’m conservative when it comes to matters of the heart. Maybe it’s because my heart was broken on more occasions than I’d like to recall.

Therefore, I’m all for starting a new relationship with clarity and purpose. Some may say that I’m too deep and that a first date isn’t that serious. It’s just the beginning of things, right?

Accepting a first date with an unbeliever can open doors that you may not find so easy to shut again. You’re taking the chance of becoming emotionally connected with someone who’s on a different spiritual page. It may not seem to matter much initially, but it will soon enough.

It doesn’t take long for two souls to intimately connect. It doesn’t have to be sexual intimacy. Many hearts have been taken captive on the first encounter with a romantic dinner and a man who has taken interest in all of who you are.

This often occurs on the very first date. We get caught up and we don’t want to turn back.

So how do you get to know someone without dating them first?  How else can you embark on something new that may turn into something wonderful?

If you don’t know this person well enough to determine if they are sincerely walking in the Spirit, be friends first. When starting something new we are tempted to hurry things along without fully realizing what (or who) we are truly committing our hearts to.

When accepting an invitation to date, you are committing to exploring the possibility of a romantic relationship. But typically you don’t make this obligation with someone who is a friend.

Keep the relationship casual, not allowing attraction and longing to take the lead. Allow your time spent with them to be relaxed and informal. Chances are you will get to know the real man, when you are friends first. With friendships there are less pretenses.

Romantic expectations tend to cloud our perception. Jumping into something new with starry eyes can inhibit the ability to properly discern.

The conflict of light verses darkness will come because the two can not dwell together. You don’t want to face this after the fact. It can be hard on the heart.

It should not take long to determine if a man is walking in the light or still wandering in darkness. Worship, obedience, love, grace; the fruit of the Spirit will flow out easily from the heart of a true man of God.

Then with a solid confirmation from God, you can determine if you should take your friendship to the next level.

Communication is crucial at any stage of a relationship so be clear about your intentions. If you desire to be friends first, be clear about it. Signals between men and women are easily mixed and interpreted wrong.

You want to keep a guard at your heart and be totally attentive to the voice of God. We’ll discuss that more tomorrow. 😉

 

Love, grace and blessings to you,

Candra

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Stop Settling For Placeholder Relationships by Kenny Pugh

Stop Settling For Placeholder Relationships by Kenny Pugh

I wanted to share some food for thought today.

The term placeholder relationships is fairly new to me. However, it’s certainly not a new thing.

How long should you hang on to a relationship that isn’t going anywhere? I truly believe in dating with purpose. But what if the one you’re investing time in, wants a play date and not a soul mate?

On this journey of singleness many find themselves in and out of relationships. It’s crucial to know when to let go and how to hear the voice of God.

Our church small group for singles has adopted Kenny Pugh’s book, “Can You Do It Standing Up? – A Different Position on Relationships” for our featured book read this quarter.

I’ve enjoyed this text so much that I decided to follow Mr. Pugh on some of his social networks. In doing so I found this video sharing his thoughts and words of wisdom regarding placeholder relationships.

Listen in and let me know your thoughts!

Our small group meets every 2nd and 4th Monday at 6:30 PM. If you’re in the Cincinnati area stop in and fellowship with us!

Greater Community Church
3590 Alaska Avenue
Cincinnati, Ohio 45237

Can You Do It Standing Up? A Different Position on Relationships: Insight To Help You Make Better Relationship Decisions

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~Candra Evans

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Saved and Single Conference Call | Becoming Whole Before Becoming One

Saved and SingleSaved and Single Conference Call | Becoming Whole Before Becoming One

Join me and my friend Rob the M.A.C. (Man After Christ) this Saturday, January 23rd at 7:07 PM (Central Time Zone) for the next saved and single conference call!

If you’re single and marriage-minded, wholeness is crucial to having the love story you dream of. God’s ways and thoughts are higher than ours. Join us as we discuss His ways to wholeness and His thoughts for marriage.

Rob the M.A.C.

Rob is a saved, single minister and musician.  His resume includes a Master in Counseling/Psychology and a Bachelor’s in Computer Information Systems. In 2008 he published his album, “88 Keys of Dreams”. He is a Guidance Technology Specialist, model, actor and producer recently featured on “Atlanta Live.”

Every second and fourth Saturday Rob hosts singles from around the world in God’s Word and prayer. It is a blessed time of encouragement and fellowship.

Click the links below to learn more about Rob and his ministries! You don’t want to miss it!

This Week’s Topic:   Becoming Whole Before Becoming One
Speaker:                       Minister Candra Evans

Saturday, January 23, 2016 at 7:07 PM Central Time Zone

Singles Prayer Conference Dial In Information:
Dial in number:  605-475-4875
Access Code:     767712#

 

Up Coming Topics on the Saved and Single Conference Call:
Bootleg Mate

www.robthemac.com

www.savedandsingle.info

 

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~Candra Evans

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The Single Life More Abundantly T-Shirt

The Single Life More Abundantly T-Shirt…Reserve yours while they last!

single life more abundantly
Living the Single Life… More Abundantly John 10:10

This week I am launching the first of several t-shirt designs for Christian Singles. Click here for full view!

This is a wonderful way to celebrate your faith and your abundant life in Christ! Message tees minister the gospel of Jesus, bringing light to a dark world.

The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. (John 10:10 KJV) #Jesus

We are overcome with negative messages reminding us of what we don’t have. We have an adversary that comes to steal our hope and joy. Let us remember the gift and opportunity of abundant living.

In every season there is an abundant harvest. In one there is an abundance of knowledge. In another there is an abundance of rest. Another season holds answered prayers grown from our seeds of faith.

Your season of singleness will not last always.  Now I know I can get an Amen on that one! 😉

Yet before you leave this stage, glean all that God has for you. Some blessings are only for this time, necessary to prepare you for what is to come.

There is provision for you in this season. Do not pass it by longing for next season’s harvest. Let God root it and bring it to full maturity. Then the next harvest will be ready for you and you will be ready for it!

Reap. Glean. Feast on your blessings for the day! Don’t lose focus.

Live your single life more abundantly!

Reserve your “Single Life More Abundantly” T-Shirt below and stay tuned for more! 

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Your humble sister servant in Jesus,

~Candra Evans

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Alone But Not Empty by Nicole Miller

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Alone But Not Empty by guest blogger, Nicole D. Miller

2015 was a good year.  I was overwhelmed by the blessings of God.  One after another they overtook me (Deut 28:2).  It got to the point that I told my best friend, “I cannot possibly meet my husband this year!  It would be too much!” Of course Jesus knows I was only kidding (smile).

But just because it was a blessed year does not mean it was easy.  There were many days where I was uncomfortable or brokenhearted.

Last year was a time of recovering from a lot of emotional pain.  I of course am still on this journey of recovery but I feel the Lord and I gained a lot of ground in 2015.

Aside from the blessings and the healing, what made last year special was the fact that I have been emotionally alone for the first time in my adult life.  As a teenager I fell into unhealthy relationships and the same thing happened in college and then after college.

I unknowingly was functioning in codependent relationships and friendships.  One by one the Lord kept asking me to lay down these relationships.  I did not realize it was b/c the relationships were so unhealthy and were hindering my growth in Him, but I obeyed because He had my heart.

Finally the time came where all unhealthy relationships were removed and I was left alone.  Truly alone.  Not just single in relationship status, but single in heart.  This may sound very noble and admirable to be single in heart for Jesus but in all honesty all I felt was pain.

All I felt was a terrible emptiness that threatened to consume me.  I asked people around me if they had ever experienced this but they had not.  I didn’t understand why I felt so empty.  And then the Lord led me to cry out to Him.  “I need You Lord!”

I cried out and told Him I needed Him tEmpty but not aloneo fill me.  I needed Him to complete me.  That is what had been lacking all those years of following Him.  He had been gracious to me.  He had given me time and did not ask for all of the idols at once.

Last year was a year of awakening to wholeness and completion in Him.  His word says that we do not lack any good thing.  We are overflowing with Him and all that we need, but how many of us really believe that?

How many of us let go of the false dependencies and coping mechanisms and unhealthy relationships?  How many of us are willing to stop hiding and stand before Him, naked and unashamed?  Solely depending on Him alone?

There is no easy way around it when you have functioned in an unhealthy way for so long.  There is no easy way to become emotionally and mentally healthy.  I am still on my journey, but there is grace to do it.  There is patience from a Father who is always cheering us on.  There is love from the One who shaped us in His image and crafted us before we were in our mother’s wombs.

We may be alone but we are not empty.  And even when we are alone, we never really are.

~Nicole D. Miller

Visit Nicole’s blog … His Love is Better Than Wine
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Can You Do It Standing Up? A Different Position on Relationships: Insight To Help You Make Better Relationship Decisions by Kenny Pugh
Anxious for Nothing: God’s Cure for the Cares of Your Soul (John Macarthur Study)

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Christian Single Top 15 Blog Post of 2015

Christian Single Top 15 Blog Post of 2015 | Happy New Year!     

Abundantly You Happy New YearBiblical teachings and inspiration are timeless. As we celebrate a new year and new seasons of blessings, let’s carry every moment of love and encouragement forward.

I want to thank all of our subscribers and guest bloggers for sharing in this ministry. Without you, the purpose of this blog would be lost.

It is often “your” comments and “your” sharing that has deeply touched the hearts of others. Community in Jesus Christ is a beautiful thing.

As we strive to carry this ministry forward both on and offline, we ask for your continued prayers.

In 2016 I pray that you triumph in the Holy Ghost and abound in every good work!

In case you missed it, let’s take a look back at Abundantly You’s top 15 blog post for 2015! These are the most frequently searched and read blog posts for Christian Singles and Couples!

15. Encouragement | How to Get Over A Crush

14. 10 Reason Why Feeling Sad is Hard To Do

13. Singleness: A Time for Self-Examination

12. Your Blessing Might Just Be Upstairs

11. A Moment Worth Waiting For | Let God Write Your Love Story

10. The Needy Christian Single

9. Thoughts on Waiting and Why It’s Hard

8. Does God Care Who I Marry

7. Jacob and Rachel: Courtship Lessons Learned

6. Christian Single Mom Blog

5. He Married Someone Else

4. Knowing Your God-Given Husband

3. The Single Life: 5 Reasons Why Being Single is a Blessing

2. Toure’ Roberts’ 5 Keys To Identifying Your Soulmate

And #1 for 2015 – Getting Over A Crush

And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. (2 Corinthians 9:8 NIV)

All my love!

~Candra Brightwell-Evans

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She Needs To Get A Man!

She needs to get a man!

These words fell on my ears this week.

My skin crawled. I wanted to scream. I shook my head and placed my face in my hands. Did I just hear what I thought I heard?

I sat stunned, remembering similar callous comments from women who had a husband or boyfriend.

As a human race I suppose we will never overcome all ignorance and prejudices. Some believe that if they are counted among the asserted normal, there is a justified right to look down on those who are not.

The phrase, she needs to get a man, often implies that a woman is lacking in some area of life. The phrase denotes that there is not much value in who she is alone.

  • She’s too unique.
  • She’s too peculiar.
  • She stands out from the crowd.
  • She has her own way of doing things.
  • She’s not like the rest of us.

But if “the rest of us” are content with being common and doing what the world is doing, then why should she be like all the rest?

If a woman chooses to remain unmarried or chooses not to settle for a man who will lay her down without a covenant, then so be it.

A woman who takes the path less traveled is a rare find. Unfortunately she often endures ignorance from people who don’t understand her purpose.

And may God be a fence around her if she has different interests in life, is focused on her dreams or surrendering her life to ministry.

Then the women, who regrettably can’t thrive without someone there to validate them, condemn her. It is not because they actually have the upper hand in life, but it is because they lack knowledge.

She may indeed desire a husband. Therefore, she doesn’t need the isolation that the phrase, she needs to get a man, can bring. Even if it’s intended as a joke. It does not make her smile.

And if a woman has a problem, pray for her. If she is alone, be her friend. If her countenance is sad, build her up and edify her soul. If she seeks advice, offer her Godly wisdom.

Telling her that she needs a man only strengthens the sham that she can’t be whole as a single person. It spreads the message that women are only a portion of a person without a man. Both single women and men are precious to God.

Jesus came that we might have life and have it more abundantly. Getting a man is not a prerequisite for abundant living. Except that man is Jesus.

And encouraging a fling without a wedding ring only compounds her problem. It prolongs the arrival of the man that God has kept for her. Let God write her love story.

Am I anti-men or anti-marriage? Of course not. I love my husband with all of my being. Never do I want to be without him. And there is nothing wrong with desiring marriage and family. God created it.

But my journey is mine alone and no woman has a right to impose on another woman their journey. I need my journey to be the woman God desires for me to be.

If a woman is content, Spirit-filled and walking upright before God, leave her alone.

Let God have “HIS” way in her life.

The single woman that lives across from you or sits in the same pew… she is not like the rest.

…And that’s likely a very good thing.

Please share with those whom this may enlighten. 😉

Loving all my single sisters and brothers,

~Candra

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GCC Hosts Small Group for Christian Singles

Now in Cincinnati…Greater Community Church Small Group for Christian Singles! 

 And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy.  I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord. – Hosea 2:19-20 (ESV)

After blogging for over eight years, I am beyond excited to start a small group for Christian singles at my home church! 

Believe it or not I have never been a part of a singles ministry before. It’s not a ministry that is offered at every church. However, I have been greatly inspired by singles ministries I’ve come to know online.Small Group for Christian Singles

The number of singles at Greater Community are few but the number of singles elsewhere and in our community are great. Since we are a church with a heart for outreach, all of our ministries are open to the community. 

There are singles of all types and ages, that desire support, information and Godly instruction for their singles journey.

Whether you are divorced, widowed, or have never been married, you will find a community of friendship, love and inspiration for abundant living in Christ Jesus.

Whether you desire to be married or are single and satisfied, our Bible and book studies will provide an array of support for your saved and single life.

We will study through the Holy Scriptures, pray together and study materials suited for the Christian single.

Our first small group read for the start of 2016 will be Can You Do It Standing Up: Insight to help you make better relationship decisions, by author Kenny Pugh. 

If you are in the Cincinnati area or know someone who is, please share this announcement regarding our new small group for Christian Singles!

Greater Community Church of the Apostolic Faith (GCC)

3590 Alaska Avenue, Cincinnati Ohio  45229

Every 2nd and 4th Monday – 6:30 PM to 8:00 PM

http://kennypugh.com/store/my-new-book/ | E-reader version is available for $2.99 | Soft cover available for $12.99 | Available on Amazon for $12.99

 

Come as you are. Our small group is open to all every 2nd and 4th Monday of the month!

 

Many more books and online resources will be made available as we continue!

 

– Candra Evans

– Elder Ron Evans Jr., Pastor

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Can You Do It Standing Up? A Different Position on Relationships: Insight To Help You Make Better Relationship Decisions
How to Overcome Heartbreak : Recovering from Misguided Love
The Best Sex of My Life: Confessions of A Sexual Purity Revolution

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