No Ordinary Stories

No Ordinary Stories by guest blogger, Farah J.

No Ordinary Stories by Farah
Written by guest blogger, Farah, from Rising with the Son

God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! (Ephesians 3:20 MSG)

I love reading. I’m especially keen for books whose authors find new and appealing ways to tell their stories, stories that capture my attention and have me reading for hours. But the moment I pick up a book that has an ordinary and expected story line, I’m just as eager to put it back on the shelf.

What kind of story is your life telling? Is it an exciting and exceptional story, or a boring and ordinary one? We all have a story to tell and good readers can tell who the author of our story is.

People who have the same story line as everyone else around them, are often the ones who are writing their own stories. These are the stories that, sad to say, I’m done reading. They’re just ordinary and boring. I know how they all end. But people whose stories are being written by God, now these are stories that get me excited and curious. I want to know how they end.

God is a great writer. Just read the Bible and you’ll see for yourself. Its ancient stories have been reread and retold for many generations simply because their author is God.

Who isn’t curious to find out what happens to Abraham as he lays Isaac on the altar, or Daniel as he is thrown in the lion’s den? Not to mention the encouragement and inspiration we get from reading these stories. And mind you, they’re not a bunch of fairy tales, they’re real stories, written by a real God.

God would love to write your life story, so that it can do the same for others. Please give Him the pen back and let Him write a great story that everyone would want to read.

No Ordinary Stories by Farah J.I’m an empty page/I’m an open book/Write Your story on my heart/Come on and make Your mark/Author of my hope/Maker of the stars/Let me be Your work of art/Won’t You write Your story on my heart –Francesca Battistelli, “Write Your Story”

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Saved and Single Conference Call | Becoming Whole Before Becoming One

Saved and SingleSaved and Single Conference Call | Becoming Whole Before Becoming One

Join me and my friend Rob the M.A.C. (Man After Christ) this Saturday, January 23rd at 7:07 PM (Central Time Zone) for the next saved and single conference call!

If you’re single and marriage-minded, wholeness is crucial to having the love story you dream of. God’s ways and thoughts are higher than ours. Join us as we discuss His ways to wholeness and His thoughts for marriage.

Rob the M.A.C.

Rob is a saved, single minister and musician.  His resume includes a Master in Counseling/Psychology and a Bachelor’s in Computer Information Systems. In 2008 he published his album, “88 Keys of Dreams”. He is a Guidance Technology Specialist, model, actor and producer recently featured on “Atlanta Live.”

Every second and fourth Saturday Rob hosts singles from around the world in God’s Word and prayer. It is a blessed time of encouragement and fellowship.

Click the links below to learn more about Rob and his ministries! You don’t want to miss it!

This Week’s Topic:   Becoming Whole Before Becoming One
Speaker:                       Minister Candra Evans

Saturday, January 23, 2016 at 7:07 PM Central Time Zone

Singles Prayer Conference Dial In Information:
Dial in number:  605-475-4875
Access Code:     767712#


Up Coming Topics on the Saved and Single Conference Call:
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~Candra Evans

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GCC Hosts Small Group for Christian Singles

Now in Cincinnati…Greater Community Church Small Group for Christian Singles! 

 And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy.  I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord. – Hosea 2:19-20 (ESV)

After blogging for over eight years, I am beyond excited to start a small group for Christian singles at my home church! 

Believe it or not I have never been a part of a singles ministry before. It’s not a ministry that is offered at every church. However, I have been greatly inspired by singles ministries I’ve come to know online.Small Group for Christian Singles

The number of singles at Greater Community are few but the number of singles elsewhere and in our community are great. Since we are a church with a heart for outreach, all of our ministries are open to the community. 

There are singles of all types and ages, that desire support, information and Godly instruction for their singles journey.

Whether you are divorced, widowed, or have never been married, you will find a community of friendship, love and inspiration for abundant living in Christ Jesus.

Whether you desire to be married or are single and satisfied, our Bible and book studies will provide an array of support for your saved and single life.

We will study through the Holy Scriptures, pray together and study materials suited for the Christian single.

Our first small group read for the start of 2016 will be Can You Do It Standing Up: Insight to help you make better relationship decisions, by author Kenny Pugh. 

If you are in the Cincinnati area or know someone who is, please share this announcement regarding our new small group for Christian Singles!

Greater Community Church of the Apostolic Faith (GCC)

3590 Alaska Avenue, Cincinnati Ohio  45229

Every 2nd and 4th Monday – 6:30 PM to 8:00 PM | E-reader version is available for $2.99 | Soft cover available for $12.99 | Available on Amazon for $12.99


Come as you are. Our small group is open to all every 2nd and 4th Monday of the month!


Many more books and online resources will be made available as we continue!


– Candra Evans

– Elder Ron Evans Jr., Pastor
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Christian Single Men, Abstinence, and God’s Grace

Christian Single MenHow many Christian single men are truly practicing abstinence? If there are little to none, is it okay with God?

These questions are often up for debate in the Christian single community. A facet of this issue is that if Christian men are unwilling to wait until marriage to have the cookie, than Christian women should not be expected to wait either.

Therefore if we’re okay with it as a “Christian” couple, God should be okay with it too.

Here is one reader’s response to my blog post, “The Christian Man and The Cookie”…

“I see articles like this and hear girls in church group talk about this all time. But none of them can name this plethora Christian men who really want to wait to have sex. They all speak hypothetically and theoretically, just like LoveinWaiting did. I know of soo sooo many happily Christian married couples who admittedly had sex with each other during their courtship. No one gets real about the facts of Christian dating.”

I left a reply for this reader but wanted to carry this conversation forward.

I was inspired to write my previous post because of men I know who are waiting until marriage for the cookie. I want to honor them because society tears them down and demeans their decision to walk upright before God.

If Christian men choose to wait until the wedding night for the cookie, God is more than able to deliver them and will bless them with the desires of their hearts.

The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. He will fulfill the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them. (Psalm 145:18-19 KJV)

To in fact get “real about the facts of Christian dating”, we have to look at all sides of the issue. We also have to throw out limited assumptions and generalizations. Every persons walk with God is unique and ultimately God is the righteous judge over our actions.

The reader’s response is correct in that not every professed Christian couple has waited until the wedding day for the cookie. Some couples are frank about their pre-marriage intimacies while others put on a pretense of piety.

In either case it would be presumptuous for me to say that because they are happily married now, that sex before marriage is God’s new approved plan for couples. Instead I would say that if these couples are happily married today, it is evidence of God’s grace and mercy.

We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. But that does not mean that God will not forgive our sin and restore to us Grace for Christian SinglesHis joy if we repent and return to Him.

Because God has blessed and had favor on an individual who has sinned, does not make the sin an acceptable action for others to take part in. It means instead that God is gracious and willing to forgive.

But should we continue in sin so grace may abound? God forbid.

For some godless people have slipped in unnoticed among us, persons who distort the message about the grace of our God in order to excuse their immoral ways, and who reject Jesus Christ, our only Master and Lord. Long ago the Scriptures predicted the condemnation they have received. (Jude 1:4 GNT)

In spite of the varied religious theories that are created in the minds of humanity, God’s Word will always prevail. You can close the scriptures and toss them in the deepest part of the ocean. God’s Word lives on beyond the printed pages.

Christian single men practicing abstinence is not a thing of the past. There is a remnant of men presenting their bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God. (Romans 12:1)

Satan would love for God’s children to believe that God’s Word is no longer relevant or worthy of regard. He would love for us to turn a blind eye to the damage that fornication has caused in the lives of so many.

The entertainment industry and mass media have changed the mind of many Christians when it comes to dating. But it hasn’t changed God’s mind.

In Old Testament times, Israel often found pleasure in hating righteousness. Then they believed that their outward piety and religious ceremonies would be enough to appease God.

God sent words of warning and promises from the prophets but they did not want to hear. They preferred doing what gave them immediate gratification.

Things have not changed much today. Today, people use the immorality of others to justify their own. They misjudge seasons of grace. When God responds with mercy instead of judgment, it is sadly mistaken for God’s approval.

The old adage “everybody’s doing it” is not enough to turn evil into good.

Seek good, and not evil, that ye may live: and so the Lord, the God of hosts, shall be with you, as ye have spoken. (Amos 5:14 KJV)

~Candra E.

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Tips to Rise Above Being Sad and Single

Christian Single FriendsI want to share three little tips that will help you rise above being sad and single.  Hold on to the single and leave sadness behind.

Saturate your heart with the Word of God

I have sat at my bed, head in my hands, and without a clue.  Yet, when I opened the Holy Bible and read God’s Word, I received answers and direction.  The Bible is so much more than printed ink on paper.  The scriptures were written by the hands of humans but genuinely inspired by the almighty God.  If our hearts are open to the Word of God, it will literally transform our minds.

Reading the Bible should not be a tedious task that we feel burdened to do to make God happy.  Access to the scriptures is access to God’s heart.  It is a privilege because it is a powerful treasure that turns our sorrow to joy and mourning into dancing!

There is help and hope in the Word.  There is renewed strength in the Word.  Indulge in it.

Saturate your heart with God’s Word and you will rise above being sad and single.


Let those who want to love you, love you.

Sometimes we can be so overcome with being sad and single that it dims the light of love that shines all around us.  While we yearn for the particular love of one, we must be careful that we do not block out the love given to us by everyone else.

Love is healing and comforting to our souls.  Eros love, or romantic love between a man and woman, is not the most exceptional kind of love.  Agape, unconditional, love is the ultimate.  It is a love that is not performance based and requires no prerequisites.  It is a love that is God and is expressed through the people of God.

If you have a friend, a parent, a sibling, or even a child that longs to love you with this kind of love; let them in and receive the love that they have to give.  Let it wash away your sorrow instead of the other way around.

{Reduce Me to Love: Unlocking the Secret to Lasting Joy by Joyce Meyer}

Replace fear with faith

Fear brings out the worst kind of sadness in me.  When I feel fear creeping in, my immediate thoughts focus on what I could lose and how I could be defeated.

I feared that I would always be single.  There is not anything wrong with being single, but I incorrectly equated singleness with loneliness.  The two are not the same… but that’s another blog post.  It made me sad to think that no one would ever fall in love with me or that I could possibly grow old alone.  This is what fear does.  It twists our hope in God and takes up space in our heart so that there is no room for faith.  Our mind is prime real estate and only the essence and things of God should reign there.

Faith is the “substance” of things hoped for.  Substance takes space, so move fear out of the way and put faith in its place.  Faith will turn your sadness into gladness because you know “with confidence” that God will see you through.  You will be victorious!

Overcome and transition from being sad and single to triumphant and single!


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My Search for a Real Remedy on Valentine’s Day

With Valentine’s Day coming tomorrow, I thought it would be fitting to address the perils of being single on what is considered to be the most romantic day of the year.  I started to brainstorm answers to the following questions. How should a single person celebrate Valentine’s Day and overcome loneliness? How can a single person enjoy Valentine’s Day as well as any couple?

My prayer for the blog is to provide solid encouragement inspired by Biblical truths. I’d sincerely like to veer away from fairytales and inspiration without substance. Because I know how it feels to be unaided in the pursuit to live happily as a single person, I strive to offer Christian singles the best help I can give. Trying to understand why you have not fallen in love and then going about any means necessary to make that happen can be grueling. You will likely read, listen to, or try just about anything to make it happen. You will join as many dating sites as
your budget allows.

Initially, I was going to post a grand list of things for singles to do on Valentine’s Day. Then I realized that if you are like me, you have Googled the topic and read them all already…been there…done that. The unadulterated truth is maybe those clever tips will make your Valentine’s Day better and maybe they won’t. You’ve heard these recommendations before I’m sure.

 *Pamper yourself   *Hang out with friends  *Do something for someone less privileged  *Join an online dating site  *Get out and meet new people

I have tried all of them. Yet one problem remained. Attempting to occupy Valentine’s Day with an activity to take my mind off being single was only a temporary fix. Perhaps the advice above has been able to deliver some out of their Valentine’s Day misery forever, but they were not permanent winners for me.

For many years as a single person all I wanted to know was how to not be single anymore. Give me a man and I’ll be complete. Any advice to get me down that path was more than welcome. Frustration set in when nothing seemed to work permanently. Hanging with friends was great…until we all went home. Pampering myself was wonderful…until I had to redirect my attention back to my daily responsibilities. Online dating was exciting…until I had to filter through dozens of questionables just to get to one possible who turned out to be an unlikely. Admittedly, two of the best pieces of advice I received was to help others with their needs and physically get out and meet new people. Those things coupled with prayer were huge steps that led me to Ronnie, but it didn’t happen overnight. So, at the end of a Valentine’s Day, I remained chagrined.

What was the real foundation for my sorrow? Why was being single such torment for me? If I had a husband would all be well with my soul? Was it healthy to look to a man to complete me? I couldn’t answer with a confident, “yes” anymore. There was some part of me that just wasn’t whole and I was no longer confident that finding a man would make it better. Obviously I would not have rejected the opportunity to fall in love, but I know I would have gone from incomplete and single to incomplete and married. My relationship status would change but I would be the same deficient woman I was before.

My desire for happiness on Valentine’s Day shifted a bit. It wasn’t enough to resolve the problem by getting a love to call my own. I wanted to be healed at my core. My prayer was to be happy, content, and at peace on all future holidays no matter if I was single or not.

This was a huge goal I asked of myself. Spending a day at the spa and hanging out with the girls would have been much less of an ordeal, but I was tired of short-term fixes.  Temporary nuggets of pleasure were not cutting it for me anymore. Why would I want to overcome this Valentine’s Day only to dread the next one?

I went to the Word of God to find help…

Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me. Hebrews 13:5-6

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. Philippians 4:11-13

 Be content with such things as I have. Learn, in whatsoever state I am, to be content. Know how to abound and suffer need. I will not fear what man shall do (or say) unto me. These statements seemed unattainable at first but I knew living God’s Word would be my catalyst for an enriched single life. I had to get to this place so my soul could prosper. This attitude and new lease on life could only come from one divine source. I looked to Jesus. I looked to Him for everything else, so why not this? There is nothing of this world that can make each part of my being whole. A consistent walk in the Spirit was the way to unconditional joy, hope, and security.

Scriptures became my food morning, noon, and night. I engrossed myself in God’s Word with the aim of drilling down to the carnal nature of discontentment and rooting it out of my soul. It was a process. It is a process. I imagine it shall be until this life is complete. But you know what? It works. I am married today but there is always some goal we will desire to reach.

Nourishing my spirit with God’s Word allowed for revelation and wisdom. One, every blessing from God is enough. As I wait on God to answer my prayers and provide the desires of my heart, I remind myself that God will allow me to have all that I need daily. Does God not know me? Am I not His child? He does and I am. The Word of God changed my mind and my feelings on waiting. I attained a peace about it.

God’s Word also revealed my purpose, vision, and destiny.

Those things in and of themselves were enough to transfer the focus of my heart from the right now (Valentine’s Day) to the greatness of my future. Abruptly there was urgency to discover the fullness of my identity and purpose. The revelation was clear. My life was to be much more than romance and marriage. That would only be a fraction of who I am and what I will do.

Why was I investing so much of my time and emotion into something that was not yet? I wanted so badly to be happy with my life, yet I was missing the forest for the trees. When I sought after God for His will over my own, I found new passions that likened to the importance of me being married. God showed me things that I never thought to look for. He gave me help that I never knew to ask for.

I discovered the Candra I always wanted to be when there was not a man in sight.

Did I stop wanting to be married? Did I stop waiting and searching for my husband? Well of course not. Desiring to be married was not my problem. How I allowed the lack of a husband to hold me back from the other blessings that God had for me was the problem. Too busy sulking and longing and not enough time considering that God was elevating my life in so many other ways.

Don’t have a dream or vision? Get to God quickly and get one so that it may give you direction. Read His Word on a regular basis and especially when you don’t feel like it. Daily I fight against the carnal nature that finds it so easy to sorrow and complain. Years of it accomplished me nothing except more sorrows and complaining.

Marriage will come.

Until then, know all of who you are. Know all of what you have. Know all of what you can do. Know all of what you are called to do. That’ll keep you excited and busy until you say, “I do.” (Smile)


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Welcome to Love in Waiting!

First, let me express my great thanks for reading Love in Waiting.

If you’re looking for a blog about single women daydreaming daily about wedding colors and china patterns, you’ve come to the wrong place.

The Love in Waiting blog is about becoming a whole and happy person before saying, “I do”. While you’re in your “waiting” season, love God, love you, and take advantage of every great blessing that single life has to offer! Yes, living single is a blessing. Really…trust me on this. (Smile)

So there’s nothing to be ashamed of. I’m like over 90 million people in this country. I am single. My prayer is to be married and I have no doubt that God will answer that prayer. I’ve shed a tear here and there in my “waiting” season, but after I wiped away the tears, I could see clearly how golden my life truly is! I want every single woman to see what I see. Your life is precious, one of a kind, and every day is a gift. Use the time God has given wisely. No more unnecessary tears, okay? No more putting off dream vacations, education, career goals, and ministries.

The love better defined as Eros, the love between a wife and her husband, I wait patiently for. You know… the kind of love that many singles have given up on, so they settle for empty flings and life threatening one night stands. I’m talking about the kind of love where the wife loves her husband as the church loves Christ. She remains loyal to him, submits to him, and gives herself to him only. And yes I said it….submit. Don’t let that six letter word scare you. We can handle it ladies. Because in return, a God sent husband will love as Christ loves His church. Now that is passionate, unfailing, intense, fanatical love! Makes that six little letter word seem more possible to activate, huh?

In the midst of my blog you will find “Love Notes”. They are open for all to read but directed only to my husband to be. Where ever you may be sweetheart …I love you.

So, this wraps up my introduction to “Love in Waiting”.

Now let us blog, laugh, cry (only a little), share, pray, and REJOICE in this our single season!



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