Christian Dating by chaseGodtv

Christian Dating by chaseGodtv

Courtship Christian DatingSo I stumbled upon this YouTube video and found it fitting for our 30 day series on Christian Dating and Courtship. I will clarify more tomorrow on how I define Christian dating and courtship. There are many strong views on how each term should or should not apply to saved Christians. Ultimately the purpose and intention for the start of a Christian romance should be marriage. This video is a few years old but very relevant to issues and questions regarding Christian dating today. A few topics and questions addressed in this video are…

  • Why doesn’t the Bible say more about dating and courtship?
  • The importance of intentionality
  • How do you know if you are ready to be in a relationship with someone?
  • When is it time to bring a long-term dating relationship to an end?

Joe, from chaseGodtv, touches on a variety of Christian dating topics. Watch through to the end. You’ll enjoy.

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Is He Too Shy

Have you ever wondered…is he too shy

Does he feel the same about me as I feel about him? Is he too shy to say so?

Even though I read Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, I still wonder how the mind of a man works. I question my husband often about the man’s point of view on singleness and relationships. Even after a definitive response, I still on occasion am left scratching my head. (Smile)

I did my own unofficial survey and asked various men in my life this question…

If you had a serious interest in a woman would you ever be too shy to approach her?

So far the answer has been a resounding, no.

For all of our male readers, please feel free to chime in down below in the comments.

According to my husband (who tends to be reserved and shy at times), even a timid man will find a way to express his interest in a woman. It may not be easy for him, but he will find a way somehow.

I recently spoke at a single’s conference in St. Louis, and we had an amazing dialog about dating and courtship. I took the liberty of asking a gentleman there the same question.

Would you ever be too shy or intimidated to approach a woman you had a deep interest in? Although he would not mind if a woman approached him first to say hello, shyness would never hinder him from expressing his interest.

For me, this helps dispel the myth that sometimes us ladies have to help the men along when it comes to initiating relationships.

Before I met my husband, I became good friends with someone I thought could be a prospective “Boaz”. He was sincerely kind and supportive. It was not long before I was hoping that more would transpire.

We spoke on the phone several times a week, and I told myself that he’s probably too shy and unsure of how to ask me out. I made efforts to lead conversations toward dating, trying to give him every green light possible.

Abruptly, my “Is he too shy?” question was answered. He called me with exciting news to say that he asked someone out. I played it cool but was highly embarrassed. He probably sensed all along that I wanted him to express a deeper interest in me.

He was a shy person, but not when it came down to getting the woman he wanted.

After this I depended more on the Spirit of God for discernment instead of my personal feelings.

According to my husband if a man is interested, he will let you know and it will be more than just a smile or gesture. Because smiles and gestures can be misread, he will do “more” to get your attention.

He puts on his game face. He will look his best and act his best when he is around you. If you have had a first date, he will make it clear that he wants a second date.

Around our third date, my Ronnie arrived with a shiny clean slightly iced over car. You guessed it. He wanted to impress so he went to the car-wash on a cool autumn night. By the time he got off the highway and arrived at my apartment the water that didn’t dry, turned to ice. A slightly frozen car is better than a dirty one I suppose. (Smile)

That night neither one of us said a word about the ice glazed over his car, but the message was well understood. Now that we’re married, we laugh so hard about that night.

Should a woman put her life on hold and spend countless hours wondering, Is he too shy?

Boaz said to his young man, the one who was overseeing the harvesters, “To whom does this young woman belong?” (Ruth 2:5 CEB)

Ruth caught the attention of Boaz and found favor in his eyes. Boaz inquired of Ruth while she was working and performing the will of God. His love for Ruth moved him to be more generous to her than to others.

The man God has kept for you, will find you and will inquire. He may be reserved. He may be shy. But, he will find a way to reach your heart. Apparently it’s what men do. (Smile)

Do you agree? Disagree? Leave your thoughts down below.

All my love,

~Candra

Candra Evans Christian Singles Blog

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How I Put Fun Back Into A First Date

For years I was not very open to the idea of dating.  Instead I hoped that my dream man would fall from the sky and say, “Yes, it’s me.  I’m the one you’ve been looking for.  Look no further.  Let’s go fall in love and get hitched.” (Smile)

Then my pastor told me that if I was serious about courtship and marriage, I needed to get out and mingle.  This did not mean go on a man hunt and lasso a man that met my fancy.  He simply encouraged me to, in a matter of speaking, make myself known by meeting new people.

My first experiences with dating again (as a Christian) were not pleasurable for me.  I turned dating into a series of life or death moments.  My expectations were outrageously too high. 

If it seemed a man had potential, I wanted fireworks and a promise to love me forever before the first date ended.  Through the course of a date I would agonize over…. Is he the one?  Will we make a love connection?  Will my family like him?  Is he willing to relocate?  I thoroughly took all the fun out of dating. 

I was a silly little thing, wasn’t I? (Smile)

Dating can be a pleasurable experience if you remove unnecessary pressure.  When I learned to loosen up and relax, I was able to enjoy dating and meeting new people.  But you don’t want to get too loose ladies. (Wink) 

On my first date with Ron, I was excited to go out after a long day at work and have a nice dinner.  I did not look to him to be my knight in shining armor or the answer to my lonesome nights.

We had some of the best soul food in town and spent the entire night talking, laughing, and sharing our dreams.  We had so much fun together that planning a second date was the only obvious choice.

So whatever you decide to do on your first date, stop and smell the roses.  Enjoy the food if you’re dining out.  Let the actors capture your attention if you’re going to the theater.  Cheer and clap loudly if you’re first date is an NBA game.  Enjoy thoughtful conversations.  Share corny jokes and laugh. 

In other words, have some fun already.  Enjoy the occasion and the opportunity to get to know someone.  If it leads to love, to God be the glory.  If it leads to friendship, to God be the glory.

 

What is your approach to a first date?  Are you easy going or are you consumed with thoughts of ‘I hope he’s the one’?

 

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What Love Never Does

This blog post, I wanted to share a word from Mr. Max Lucado. This message is from his calendar “Grace for the Moment”. And you all know how much I adore “Love” and “Grace”. Enjoy.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. – 1 Corinthians 13:6

“In this verse lies a test for love. Here’s an example…. A young couple are on a date. His affection goes beyond her comfort zone. She resists. But he tries to persuade her with the oldest line in the book: “But I love you. I just want to be near you. If you loved me….” That siren you hear? It’s the phony-love detector. This guy doesn’t love her. He may love her body. He may love boasting to his buddies about his conquest. But he doesn’t love her.

True love will never ask the “beloved” to do what he or she thinks is wrong.”

– Max Lucado

 

What Love Never Does…Inspiration by Max Lucado

This blog post I was inspired to look deeper into what love never does.  I wanted to share a word from Mr. Max Lucado. This message is from his Calendar – Grace For The Moment (Day Brightener).  And you all know how much I adore “Love” and “Grace”. Enjoy.

What love never does….

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. – 1 Corinthians 13:6

“In this verse lies a test for love. Here’s an example…. A young couple are on a date. His affection goes beyond her comfort zone. She resists. But he tries to persuade her with the oldest line in the book: “But I love you. I just want to be near you. If you loved me….” That siren you hear? It’s the phony-love detector. This guy doesn’t love her. He may love her body. He may love boasting to his buddies about his conquest. But he doesn’t love her.

True love will never ask the “beloved” to do what he or she thinks is wrong.”

– Max Lucado

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