Saved and Single Conference Call | Becoming Whole Before Becoming One

Saved and SingleSaved and Single Conference Call | Becoming Whole Before Becoming One

Join me and my friend Rob the M.A.C. (Man After Christ) this Saturday, January 23rd at 7:07 PM (Central Time Zone) for the next saved and single conference call!

If you’re single and marriage-minded, wholeness is crucial to having the love story you dream of. God’s ways and thoughts are higher than ours. Join us as we discuss His ways to wholeness and His thoughts for marriage.

Rob the M.A.C.

Rob is a saved, single minister and musician.  His resume includes a Master in Counseling/Psychology and a Bachelor’s in Computer Information Systems. In 2008 he published his album, “88 Keys of Dreams”. He is a Guidance Technology Specialist, model, actor and producer recently featured on “Atlanta Live.”

Every second and fourth Saturday Rob hosts singles from around the world in God’s Word and prayer. It is a blessed time of encouragement and fellowship.

Click the links below to learn more about Rob and his ministries! You don’t want to miss it!

This Week’s Topic:   Becoming Whole Before Becoming One
Speaker:                       Minister Candra Evans

Saturday, January 23, 2016 at 7:07 PM Central Time Zone

Singles Prayer Conference Dial In Information:
Dial in number:  605-475-4875
Access Code:     767712#


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~Candra Evans

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She Needs To Get A Man!

She needs to get a man!

These words fell on my ears this week.

My skin crawled. I wanted to scream. I shook my head and placed my face in my hands. Did I just hear what I thought I heard?

I sat stunned, remembering similar callous comments from women who had a husband or boyfriend.

As a human race I suppose we will never overcome all ignorance and prejudices. Some believe that if they are counted among the asserted normal, there is a justified right to look down on those who are not.

The phrase, she needs to get a man, often implies that a woman is lacking in some area of life. The phrase denotes that there is not much value in who she is alone.

  • She’s too unique.
  • She’s too peculiar.
  • She stands out from the crowd.
  • She has her own way of doing things.
  • She’s not like the rest of us.

But if “the rest of us” are content with being common and doing what the world is doing, then why should she be like all the rest?

If a woman chooses to remain unmarried or chooses not to settle for a man who will lay her down without a covenant, then so be it.

A woman who takes the path less traveled is a rare find. Unfortunately she often endures ignorance from people who don’t understand her purpose.

And may God be a fence around her if she has different interests in life, is focused on her dreams or surrendering her life to ministry.

Then the women, who regrettably can’t thrive without someone there to validate them, condemn her. It is not because they actually have the upper hand in life, but it is because they lack knowledge.

She may indeed desire a husband. Therefore, she doesn’t need the isolation that the phrase, she needs to get a man, can bring. Even if it’s intended as a joke. It does not make her smile.

And if a woman has a problem, pray for her. If she is alone, be her friend. If her countenance is sad, build her up and edify her soul. If she seeks advice, offer her Godly wisdom.

Telling her that she needs a man only strengthens the sham that she can’t be whole as a single person. It spreads the message that women are only a portion of a person without a man. Both single women and men are precious to God.

Jesus came that we might have life and have it more abundantly. Getting a man is not a prerequisite for abundant living. Except that man is Jesus.

And encouraging a fling without a wedding ring only compounds her problem. It prolongs the arrival of the man that God has kept for her. Let God write her love story.

Am I anti-men or anti-marriage? Of course not. I love my husband with all of my being. Never do I want to be without him. And there is nothing wrong with desiring marriage and family. God created it.

But my journey is mine alone and no woman has a right to impose on another woman their journey. I need my journey to be the woman God desires for me to be.

If a woman is content, Spirit-filled and walking upright before God, leave her alone.

Let God have “HIS” way in her life.

The single woman that lives across from you or sits in the same pew… she is not like the rest.

…And that’s likely a very good thing.

Please share with those whom this may enlighten. 😉

Loving all my single sisters and brothers,


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What You Should Know Before You Get Married

As I approach one year of marriage I want to share with you what you should know before you get married. If you desire to one day say, I do, consider these important points of a Christian marriage.

The Death of the Self

Doctor John Thomas, a Christian marriage counselor from Cincinnati, Ohio, gave Ron and me these words of wisdom. Marriage is the death of the self. I put this at the top of my list of what you should know before you get married because in my opinion, it is the most crucial. We have heard that marriage is about give and take. Yet, some forget to disclose the real figures of the giving part. You and your spouse must both give 100 percent. Giving your partner 50 percent and consuming the rest of your energy on yourself will not work.

You are no longer flying solo, but have become part of a team. Support each other.  Build each other up.  This sounds like a hard task to the natural mind, especially if you have been single for awhile. You are used to having things your way, but remember that true love does not put itself first. Both the husband and wife will be fulfilled and happy when they receive the best of their spouse. This practice demonstrates true love. Love will sacrifice. Love will be selfless. And in the end, true love (the death of the self) will overcome all things. God bless Dr. Thomas, for we will never forget this principle.

Master the Art of Encouragement

Do you know how to encourage? This may seem like a silly question, but I have found that some people are terrible at encouraging others. Mastering the art of encouragement is another crucial element to marriage and it is on the list of what you should know before you get married. You want to put this into practice before you marry, because you will find that you will need to implement this early in your relationship. Many are frustrated because they discover that when they enter a season of hard times, the person they love the most doesn’t give them the encouragement they desperately need.

I am learning that I need to be an encourager in every season of our marriage. I don’t have to understand all the details to lift my husband’s spirits up. I don’t have to know the answers to every problem to give him confidence. You may need to be an encourager when you have had a bad day as well. This is what true love does. Until you both are able to find the solution to the problem, find ways to keep each other smiling. When you do not have the words to say, pray and ask God for an inspired word that will increase their faith in Him. Master the art of encouragement now with your friends and family. Knowing how to lift up a bowed down head makes a tremendous difference in every relationship.

Take God with You

Some pray and plead with God for a spouse. They get the mate and forget about God. Do not let this be said about your actions. We understand well the need for God in our lives as single Christians, but the need remains the same after we are married. As a single woman, I needed a friend, a counselor, a comforter, and a provider. Someone may ask, isn’t Ron all these things for you? If so, why do you still need God as you did before?

First, let me say that no love should take the place of our love for God. Our spouse should never become a god to us. The comfort, provision, and blessings that we receive from our mates ultimately come from God. Jesus is the source from which all blessings flow. Although we envision ourselves being the best wife or husband we can be, the truth remains that we are fallible and capable of making mistakes. Your man or your lady won’t get it right every day. You will need the Lord. This is another key element of what you should know before you get married so that you may prepare your heart to be forgiving of those imperfect moments. God is the third cord that will bind your marriage with love, strength, joy, patience, and grace. As you walk down the aisle on your wedding day, take God with you.

So here’s to what you should know before you get married…more tidbits to come soon!

“We long to find someone who has been where we’ve been, who shares our fragile skies, who sees our sunsets with the same shades of blue.” – Beth Moore

-Candra Evans

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Stop Encouraging Me!

Some of you read the title and thought, “What is she talking about now?” Yet, have you ever felt this way? Right when you are in the middle of a good “woe is me, I’m single” pity party, some married person comes to you with encouragement of some kind. You try to turn that frown upside down, but you would pay anything for them to go away. After all, you have a party to get back to and for whatever reason you’re not ready to leave. Am I alone? Do I hear crickets? Well I have been there and felt all of that.

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My Hope For Christian Singles

My hope for the single woman and man is that you will take pleasure in the gift of life, and enjoy the love and grace of God as we enter into this New Year.

Will 2012 be the year for love?

Will it be the year you stand at the altar and say, “I do.”?

If the answer is yes, praise Him. If the answer is to wait, praise Him.


Lord, not our will but your will be done.

My hope for you is that you see yourself as God sees you. Let God’s strength be perfect where you are weak and celebrate where you are strong. You are not incomplete. You are not alone. You are not deficient or half of a person. In Jesus we are made whole. God looked upon you and loved you so much, that He sent the Son to be crucified in your place. The debt of sin is removed by His redeeming blood. See how precious and priceless you are.  

I pray that you overcome loneliness with the joy of the Lord. This world can not take joy away from you. Do not surrender it. God said I am with you always, even until the end of the world. Know that God always keeps His promises. He is not a man that he should lie. If God is keeping you now, He will do so until the end.

When God forgives you, leave the memories of your past mistakes behind. As He heals the wounds inflicted on your heart by broken relationships and insecurities, walk forward with confidence. Do not look back. I hope that forgiveness will flow to and from your heart and soul. Forgive others as God has forgiven you. His grace is sufficient.

Let the Word of God dwell in you richly. Meditate on scripture and let it saturate your life.

My hope is that God guides you to walk by faith and not by sight. Do not wait until you see the blessings of God before you rejoice. Make preparations to receive the spouse you have prayed for now. Acknowledge God in every step of the way and He will guide you in what you should do from day-to-day.

Fight discouragement, doubt, and bitterness with faith. Never stop believing or thanking God for what He has already done for you. I hope that you rejoice in the Lord always.

My hope is that you take your relationship with God to new levels. Go deeper. Beware of distractions that will keep you from loving Him. By His precious Holy Ghost we have power to shine as lights in this world. Before and after marriage, love God first. Let Him use you for His glory and to be a blessing to others.

Guard your heart. Let yourself be happy. Choose wisely. Fear no evil.

And again I say, rejoice.

In Jesus Name, Amen

I love you all and pray God’s best blessings for your lives now and forever.

C. L. Evans (Love and Grace Media for Christian Singles)