Stay In Your Lane by Makeda Russell

Stay In Your Lane

by Guest Writer: Makeda Russell

I believe it is an important life lesson for us to ‘Stay in our lane’, as we run our race in life. The words that I am about to share is nothing new. It’s something you might have heard before, so, it’s just a reminder to encourage us in whatever season we are experiencing at the moment.

As we journey through this life, at some point in time we might focus our attention or take a glance at what God is doing in someone else’s life. It’s a natural tendency of man. Nothing is wrong with this, depending on the nature of our heart.

But today I would just like to encourage you my sisters and my brothers. Whether you are in your season of singleness or in your season of marriage, never get caught up with what God is doing for someone else or how God is blessing someone else; that we become discouraged in our own circumstance. Or, that we miss our own blessing or do not take the time out to prepare ourselves for our own blessings to come.

It’s not about what God is doing in someone else’s life….It’s about YOU.

It’s about how He (God) is dealing with you my sister; how He is dealing with you my brother. What is God doing for YOU? (not everyone else), what is God speaking to YOU? (not everyone else). Everybody’s story is different…different plot, different setting, different characters etc., and this is something that we must see for ourselves and walk in it without looking for familiarity or validation.

Let’s get comfortable with our own portion. You see, when our mind or our spirit is on everyone else and what God is doing for them, then we are not ready to run our race.  We can never run our race, when we are not in our own lane.

So yes, we might be 30, 40, 50 years old and is still waiting for marriage or some other blessing in our lives, but I encourage you, to stay in your lane…whatever it is you’re waiting on God to do, it’s your lane my friend- stay in it.

One of the things personally for me is that, whenever I am waiting for God to bless me, I always look for familiarity… so, is there another sister out there who has a similar story to mine and God came through for her? Or is there a sister out there who has a similar story and she too is waiting for God to bless her?

I tend to cling to familiarity and there’s nothing wrong with that, matter a fact it was in searching on YouTube for a familiar story in singleness, that I was blessed to have met Candra… (Thank you Lord). So you see, there is nothing wrong in searching for familiarity because it does bless us and encourage us.

But in keeping in our lane, sometimes, just sometimes my friend, there just won’t be familiarity; there just won’t be another story like ours or maybe not in the sense that we are looking for it, so through prayer we have to learn to glory in our own garden and trust God that He will make something beautiful out of it, despite how it might look now.

Jeremiah 29:11(Good News Translation) says, ‘I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring you about the future you hope for.’

2nd Timothy 4:7 (KJV), ‘I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith.’

Let’s fight that fight, finish our course and keep the faith my friend, as we run this particular leg of our race.

God Bless.

Makeda Russell is a 32 year Christian Single. She has never been married and is waiting on God for her God-ordained husband. 🙂

Makeda is not a professional writer but a school teacher by profession. She teaches grade six at her school in Jamaica. 

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Ask God For The Impossible

Ask God For The Impossible

Today I found myself in distress, without answers, and not knowing what to do. But in my despair I have learned that I may ask God for the impossible…in spite of all of my mistakes.

I learned this from Sarah, David, Elijah and Hezekiah. The list of those who have experienced God’s miracles are countless. Every miracle is a lesson to trust Jesus more and more.

I stumbled upon an old post that I penned from my heart to Abundantly You readers. I did not know then that I would need my own words of encouragement today. It was a reminder that with God, all things are possible. Therefore I can ask God for the impossible. 

And in the name of Jesus, He will supply. He does the impossible all of the time.

“And they say unto him, We have here but five loaves, and two fishes. He said, Bring them hither to me. (Matthew 14:17-18 KJV)

The disciples presented to Jesus five loaves of bread and two fishes. This sounds like a perfect meal…for two. Yet Jesus was planning a meal for well, more than 5,000 people.

Human reasoning says there is not enough to feed everyone. Someone is going to go hungry today.

It is against all odds that five loaves of bread and two fishes will feed 5,000 men plus all of the women and children. But on this day Jesus showed “human reasoning” the door and performed what was humanly impossible.

Jesus looked to Heaven and He blessed the meal. Afterwards He proceeded to break the food in pieces and the disciples served the food to the multitude.

He brake and brake and brake until everyone was not only fed, but FULL.

We can rejoice in the fact that we serve a God who is not intimidated nor controlled by the odds. If He is not concerned about impossibilities, then our faith should not be either. It should not be allowed to take its toll on our happiness.

When you pray unto the Lord today, do not be afraid to ask Him for the impossible, and do not fear that He is unwilling or unable to perform it.

He loves those that are His and will bless you until you are FULL.”

So today I ask God for the impossible, and I will wait until my change comes.

Love, Grace, and Blessings,

~Candra Evans
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Expired Faith by Candra Evans

Expired Faith

{An excerpt from the archives…in case you missed it}

When Lazarus became sick, his sisters sent for Jesus. After hearing the news, Jesus stayed two days longer in the place where He was.

Jesus loved Lazarus, Mary and Martha, but He did not rush to return to them.

When you have been waiting longer than expected for an answer from God, you may be tempted to argue His timing. 

Doesn’t God know that the clock is ticking? Doesn’t He know how quickly the days are passing by?

When the pressure of time is upon us we want God to “show up and do something.” We want an overnight deliverance. We can’t wait one more day, let alone four days.  

When Jesus arrived, Lazarus was dead and had been buried for four days. Martha walked to meet Him and said,

 “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

Jesus told His disciples, “and for your sake I am glad that I was not there, so that you may believe“. 

Some of them said, “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man also have kept this man from dying?”

They believed that Jesus could heal Lazarus. They may have even mustered up enough faith if only Jesus had come a day or two after his death. But four days…?

Does our faith have an expiration date? Will our faith expire or endure the test of time? 

Martha reminded of the length of days that Lazarus lay in the tomb by mentioning the smell of his deceased body. Jesus reminded that if you believe, you will see the glory of God.Expired Faith

Jesus cried out with a loud voice, “Lazarus, come forth”. Then he, who had died, came out of the tomb alive.

We have to put away the stopwatches and stop counting the years that have passed.

What could have been, will still be, when God says it’s time.

Expired faith will not see the glory of God. Pray for renewed faith.

Love you to life,

~Candra, Abundantly You for Christian Singles and More


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Encouragement | How to Get Over a Crush

Encouragement | How to Get Over a Crush…for the Spirit filled Christian Woman

Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. (Proverbs 4:26 ESV)


Developing a crush on someone is not something that only unbelievers do.

I frequently receive emails requesting prayer and advice asking how to get over a crush. Some crushes are minor and insignificant while others are indeed crushing to the heart.

getting over a crushThe pain can be unbearable and the answers on how to overcome seem so far away.

One could list hundreds of ways on how to get over a crush. But the remedy for Christian women in relationship with God differs from secular solutions.

There are hundreds of articles and YouTube videos giving advice on how to get the man you’re crushing on. You’ll find advice on how to make him notice you and how to get him to start chasing after you.

However, as daughters of God, our heavenly Father is very active in writing your love story.

The Lord can see through the shell of a man to know if he is the right one for you. If you desire marriage, God wants you to have a blessed one. So His perfect will and insight must be considered before we assign our affections to another.

Nevertheless, we like what we like. And although we wait on God, the new guy that joined your Bible study group has you smitten.

In my early twenties I was infatuated with a certain young man…for several years. So speaking from experience, I wish that I had not let my crush linger on for as long as it did.

When it was forced to end because he married another woman, I felt cheated. I know. I know. He did not belong to me. But sometimes the heart turns a deaf ear to reason.

I promised myself that I would never again invest my heart in love that is unsure. I established emotional and physical boundaries when I found myself attracted to someone and I kept that vow.

A crush can contribute to having a false sense of Christian hope. Instead of searching for spiritual understanding our hearts wonder aimlessly with fingers crossed and wishing with uncertainty.   

Because God is unfailing, we can trust that He will bring the right person and a right relationship into our lives. God can see beyond what is impressive to you and lead you to the man He has kept just for you.

Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord. (Jeremiah 17:7 ESV)

Having a crush on someone is a stumbling block that hinders many of God’s desires for His people.

God wants for you…

…a peaceful and grateful heart

…to fully trust Him for all things

…to be anxious for nothing

…to have a temperate spirit

…to rejoice always

…to be fully available to His plan

…to walk by faith and not live in fear

…to come to the knowledge of truth

…to have life more abundantly

Even though it was apparent that the man I was crushing on had no romantic interest in me, I held on. As much as it hurt to see him or hear his voice, I held on. I couldn’t understand it but my heart did not want to let go.

Perhaps as much as having a crush hurt me, it was a crutch for my singleness.

Remember, for many years I was not a “healthy” single person. I was limping through life depending on the love of a man to keep me from falling.

See, I wanted to be married more than anything. Allowing my affection to grow for this man, gave me a sense of hope. But the hope was not from God.

There was a sense of comfort in daydreaming about him and merging him into my yearning for marriage. A false hope generated in my heart and it replaced true Christian hope.

After many days of disappointing encounters and tear filled nights, I reclaimed my heart. Overcoming did not come easy but I prayed for an increase in my faith. I then rested in Christian hope.

True Christian hope is based on God’s promises. His promises are true and always manifest in their time. 

Reclaim your hope in God today…hope for what He has in store for you.

Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost. (Romans 15:13 KJV)

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Your in Christ,
Candra Evans, 
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A Praying Church by SECCNextGen

prayer without askingA Praying Church by SECCNextGen

As I step back and look at my life as well as the lives of others, I can write a list from here to the moon of things we need from God. There is so much that happens in life that falls beyond our control.

So as saved people of God, we pray.

We pray and ask God for all the things we need and desire. Over the years I have sometimes found myself on my knees giving God a laundry list of emergency requests… healing… finance… ministry… restored relationships… and so on.

But what if we expanded prayer time beyond 911 emergencies and meal time prayers of thanksgiving?

I was introduced to this video by a coworker, and the first time I watched my eyes filled with tears. My tears were bitter-sweet. I was excited about the changes this world could see because of a praying church. Then I was saddened because so many are far away from prayer like this.

What would happen if we not only prayed as individuals but formed a praying church in the earth? Not prayer out of urgency or obligation, but praying to touch and be touched by God.

What changes would we see in our churches, families and communities? How much more could we overcome temptations and minister to the spiritual needs of others?

I encourage you to watch this video from SECCNextGen all the way through to the end. I pray that the message speaks to you at it has spoken to me.

We wonder why God’s children are depressed, perplexed, slow-moving in spiritual things. The question to ask is, “Are you part of a praying church?” Is prayer an intricate part of who you are? Do you schedule prayer around life’s events or pray without ceasing?


“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33 KJV)


“Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul.” Mahatma Gandhi

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10 Reasons Why Feeling Sad Is Hard To Do | by Candra Evans

10 Reasons Why Feeling Sad Is Hard To Do | by Candra Evans

To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven. There is an appointed time for dancing and an appointed time for mourning.

I will not say that you should not have sad moments in your life. It happens to all of us. Even the most optimistic have their bouts with feeling sad. The loss of someone or something dear to us triggers this emotion easily.Feeling Sad Happiness Loading

Then there are times when feeling sad is based on perspective and how we perceive things to be. I don’t know about you but I’ve had many good cries on my pillow at night over issues that were not as bad as I thought.

If I had looked at my circumstance with eyes of faith, I would have had more restful nights. Often the bark of potential trouble is worse than its bite.

Every time I am overwhelmed by calamity, left alone, let down, or can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, I remember these 10 things. My perspective then changes. My vision is clearer. And my faith gives “feeling sad” a run for its money.

When it hurts, I bring back to my remembrance these 10 affirmations of my faith in God. And in the midst of my storm, I dance.

1. Jesus loves me both now and forever.

2. If God is for me who can prevail against me?

3. At the end of my journey is victory. It is not over until I win.

4. If what I am holding on to is only hurting me, I have the freedom to let it go.

5. For every friend that did not support me, God sent a stranger to help me. Then we became friends.

6. My heart has been broken before. I lived. I started over again. Life is better now. 

7. The size of my blessing is not predetermined by my bank account. God shall supply all of my needs according to “His” riches in glory.

8. Faith still works.

9. By His wounds, I am healed. #Jesus

10. “Then the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:17-18 ESV)


What affirmations or statements of faith strengthen your heart when you’re feeling sad?

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Your Blessing Might Just Be Upstairs

(This post is inspired by my Ronnie)


BlessingHave you ever felt like there was a large gap between you and God? As if He is too far away to hear your voice and too far to see what you’re going through?

As far away as God seems, the desire of your heart seems even farther away. Where is the blessing?

When I was in my mid twenties there was a woman who lived three blocks down the street from my church. She was the littlest, cutest, most adorable seventy something year old woman I had ever met. I mean no disrespect by calling her little. She was about 4’5” with heels on. And yes she rocked her heels honey!

She joined our church family and often invited us down the street to her apartment to indulge in her baked goods. She lived in a small apartment building on the ground floor. It was a warm and cozy place. I loved the building so much that as I drove back and forth to church, I regularly looked for vacancy signs.

I had no idea that on those visits to Ms. George’s apartment, there was something, or rather someone special frequenting the lower level of her building.

Years later, Ms. George moved to a larger complex for Senior’s and I found my own warm and cozy apartment close to my job.

In 2010, about 10 to 12 years later, a revelation came to light.

All of this time and then some, I was longing to meet my future husband. I would eyeball a handsome gentlemen pushing a cart through the produce section and wonder, “Is he the one for me?” Have you ever woke up in the morning and wondered if that day would be the day God would send the answer to your prayer?

Will today be the day you are healed? Will today be the day you land your dream job? Will today be the day your children turn their grades around?

Your answered prayer is closer than what you can see.

If only I had a quarter for every time the Lord seemed too far from my circumstance. Was He working on my behalf? I prayed but I could not see an answer or confirmation that my voice was heard.

And somewhere on the other side of town, Ronnie was looking for his future wife. Where could she be? Even during his travel to Africa, he pondered if he would find her there. Was she in Ghana? Nigeria?

Little did I know that a decade before meeting my husband I would be laughing with Ms. George and eating pie in an apartment building that Ronnie owned! No, I was not in Africa but upstairs in a property that belonged to him! As I was upstairs visiting with Ms. George, he was downstairs taking care of management and maintenance affairs.

I don’t know how we never met back then, but I take comfort in knowing that God was working a divine plan when my eyes could not see.

This is how close we are to our blessings! In the natural realm, we see empty promises and unanswered prayers, but in the Spirit God is WORKING!

When we are ready, when God says it is time, He pulls your promise from the spiritual realm to the natural. Before you know it, you are face to face with your miracle!

Woman of God, walk by faith and not by sight.

Ronnie and I shared paths on the days I thought I would always be alone. But God was writing our love story even then.

My blessing was never far away. As long as God is near, so shall my blessings be!

Whatever it is you are waiting for, keep waiting…keep believing…and you will receive.

Your blessing just might be right upstairs. 😉


Abundantly Alive in Christ,



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