Love is Like Green Bananas?

Love is Like Green Bananas?

…written by guest blogger Brenda Seefeldt Amodea

I had a date with a guy once. His name was Mitchell. He was in a band that I hired for a youth event and he was pretty insistent on asking me out. Even the teens knew he was. I said yes.

On our first date he took me to a nice dinner in downtown Minneapolis. It was a nice dinner and we had a nice conversation. After that dinner we were walking on that nice summer evening in downtown Minneapolis.

Then suddenly he was down on his knees before me and proposed marriage. In front of a crowd…  Who stopped to watch… I said no to his proposal without even explaining why. Very loudly to the crowd Mitchell declared, “Love is like green bananas. It takes time to ripen.” The date ended shortly after that.

When you practice brave dating (Dating to discover who you are. The result of this learning process will then lead you to a good match to give you that love for a lifetime you desire.) Sometimes you date clunkers. This is a risk you take.

But isn’t dating always a risk? Vulnerability is required. Believe it or not though, brave dating is one of those safer risks because you aren’t placing so much pressure on this one date hoping he/she may be “the one.” You are just dating and learning.

A side benefit is sometimes you get to do some really fun things on that date. Especially if you can help shape the date idea to be something fun.

Another side benefit is you may have a great story to tell your friends that will cause laughter for many years to come. You don’t get that story without taking this step of bravery.

And a proposal mixed with love is like green bananas is a story worth telling again and again.

Mitchell and I had a second date, sort of. His band was playing at the county fair and I was there. He took me on a ride on the ferris wheel. At the top of the ferris wheel, he proposed again. I said no again. And he confidently said, “Love is like bubbles. It takes time to rise to the surface.”

I never saw Mitchell again. But I heard he got married to someone else not too long after. Is anyone surprised?

Brenda Seefeldt Amodea is a 35-year youth pastor.  What that means is she has “coached” many teens through high school, through singleness and into marriage.  What Brenda has learned over these 35 years as well as from her own personal experience of dating for 18 years before her marriage has been combined into Brave Dating Coach which is a blog, a small group, and a speaking ministry.  Brave Dating Coach can be found at where you will also find other blogs written by some of those grown teens in Brenda’s life who are finding their way to that love for a lifetime.

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GCC Hosts Small Group for Christian Singles

Now in Cincinnati…Greater Community Church Small Group for Christian Singles! 

 And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy.  I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord. – Hosea 2:19-20 (ESV)

After blogging for over eight years, I am beyond excited to start a small group for Christian singles at my home church! 

Believe it or not I have never been a part of a singles ministry before. It’s not a ministry that is offered at every church. However, I have been greatly inspired by singles ministries I’ve come to know online.Small Group for Christian Singles

The number of singles at Greater Community are few but the number of singles elsewhere and in our community are great. Since we are a church with a heart for outreach, all of our ministries are open to the community. 

There are singles of all types and ages, that desire support, information and Godly instruction for their singles journey.

Whether you are divorced, widowed, or have never been married, you will find a community of friendship, love and inspiration for abundant living in Christ Jesus.

Whether you desire to be married or are single and satisfied, our Bible and book studies will provide an array of support for your saved and single life.

We will study through the Holy Scriptures, pray together and study materials suited for the Christian single.

Our first small group read for the start of 2016 will be Can You Do It Standing Up: Insight to help you make better relationship decisions, by author Kenny Pugh. 

If you are in the Cincinnati area or know someone who is, please share this announcement regarding our new small group for Christian Singles!

Greater Community Church of the Apostolic Faith (GCC)

3590 Alaska Avenue, Cincinnati Ohio  45229

Every 2nd and 4th Monday – 6:30 PM to 8:00 PM | E-reader version is available for $2.99 | Soft cover available for $12.99 | Available on Amazon for $12.99


Come as you are. Our small group is open to all every 2nd and 4th Monday of the month!


Many more books and online resources will be made available as we continue!


– Candra Evans

– Elder Ron Evans Jr., Pastor
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A Praying Church by SECCNextGen

prayer without askingA Praying Church by SECCNextGen

As I step back and look at my life as well as the lives of others, I can write a list from here to the moon of things we need from God. There is so much that happens in life that falls beyond our control.

So as saved people of God, we pray.

We pray and ask God for all the things we need and desire. Over the years I have sometimes found myself on my knees giving God a laundry list of emergency requests… healing… finance… ministry… restored relationships… and so on.

But what if we expanded prayer time beyond 911 emergencies and meal time prayers of thanksgiving?

I was introduced to this video by a coworker, and the first time I watched my eyes filled with tears. My tears were bitter-sweet. I was excited about the changes this world could see because of a praying church. Then I was saddened because so many are far away from prayer like this.

What would happen if we not only prayed as individuals but formed a praying church in the earth? Not prayer out of urgency or obligation, but praying to touch and be touched by God.

What changes would we see in our churches, families and communities? How much more could we overcome temptations and minister to the spiritual needs of others?

I encourage you to watch this video from SECCNextGen all the way through to the end. I pray that the message speaks to you at it has spoken to me.

We wonder why God’s children are depressed, perplexed, slow-moving in spiritual things. The question to ask is, “Are you part of a praying church?” Is prayer an intricate part of who you are? Do you schedule prayer around life’s events or pray without ceasing?


“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33 KJV)


“Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul.” Mahatma Gandhi

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Touré Roberts’ 5 Keys To Identifying Your Soulmate

Touré Roberts’ 5 Keys To Identifying Your Soulmate


Need help in identifying your soulmate?

I came across this video on the YT, 5 Keys To Identifying Your Soulmate, by Pastor Touré Roberts. He is speaking from the perspective of his own personal journey as a single man.

Most of his take on marriage and finding love lines up with what I have believed for a long time.

God is completely interested in our relationships that may help or hinder our walk with Him.

We seek God’s face for so many things, but too many of us are leaving God out when it comes to finding the love you’ve been waiting for. To not allow God to lead us in the most life altering decision we could ever make just doesn’t make spiritual sense.

The keys that Pastor Roberts shares can definitely help eliminate the sometimes draining process of “dating”. Identifying your soulmate is less complex when allowing the Holy Spirit to guide.

This video is over an hour-long so if you don’t have time to watch it now, add it to a playlist to watch later. It is very thought-provoking and could possibly change your single’s journey for the good. This is a must see.

Love you to life!

Candra Brightwell-Evans

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A Woman’s Question by Lena Lathrop

A Woman’s Question by Lena Lathrop

I thought this poem fit perfectly with our “Preparing for Marriage Series”. It is titled “A Woman’s Question”, written by Lena Lathrop. This poem is featured in Joshua Harris’ book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Relationships and Romance.

Let this poem remind you of your worth. Let these words encourage you to not settle for less than what God has prepared just for you. The right man will come. He will have the right answers to the questions of your heart. He will be worth the wait. 

A Woman’s Question

Do you know you have asked for the costliest thing
Ever made by the Hand above?
A woman’s heart, and a woman’s life—
And a woman’s wonderful love.

Do you know you have asked for this priceless thing
As a child might ask for a toy?
Demanding what others have died to win,
With a reckless dash of boy.

You have written my lesson of duty out,
Manlike, you have questioned me.
Now stand at the bars of my woman’s soul
Until I shall question thee.

You require your mutton shall always be hot,
Your socks and your shirt be whole;
I require your heart be true as God’s stars
And as pure as His heaven your soul.

You require a cook for your mutton and beef,
I require a far greater thing;
A seamstress you’re wanting for socks and shirts—
I look for a man and a king.

A king for the beautiful realm called Home,
And a man that his Maker, God,
Shall look upon as He did on the first
And say: “It is very good.”

I am fair and young, but the rose may fade
From this soft young cheek one day;
Will you love me then ‘mid the falling leaves,
As you did ‘mong the blossoms of May?

Is your heart an ocean so strong and true,
I may launch my all on its tide?
A loving woman finds heaven or hell
On the day she is made a bride.

I require all things that are grand and true,
All things that a man should be;
If you give this all, I would stake my life
To be all you demand of me.

If you cannot be this, a laundress and cook
You can hire and little to pay;
But a woman’s heart and a woman’s life
Are not to be won that way.”

-Lena Lathrop

I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris

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March 2014 Recipe and Relationship Tip – Garlic and Maple Bacon Brussels Sprouts

March 2014 Healthy Recipe and Relationship Tip by J. Nicole from GetNourshiment.Com

recipe and relationship brussels sproutsGarlic & Maple Bacon Brussels Sprouts

Cook Time  
Prep Time 5 mins
+ Cook Time 15 mins
Total Time 20 mins

  • 1 1/2 pound Brussels sprouts
  • 6 slices Amish maple turkey bacon
  • 2 tsps butter
  • 1 tbsp olive oil
  • 6 cloves of garlic
  • 1/2 cup organic chicken broth
  • adobo or salt
  • pepper

1. Place the bacon in a skillet on medium heat. Cook until crispy.
2. Meanwhile, clean and cut the Brussels sprouts lengthwise.
3. Mince the garlic as desired.
4. Once done, remove the bacon from the heat and crumble.
5. Place the olive oil and butter in a skillet on medium heat. Sautee the garlic.
6. Add the Brussels sprouts and toss.
7. Stir in the chicken broth, adobo, and pepper as desired.
8. Cook for approximately 10 minutes.
9. Remove from heat and drain excess liquid.
10. Add bacon and mix.
11. Get your mouth ready to enjoy Brussels sprouts and mind blown to never look at them the same again!

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Love at first sight has nothing on love over decades. Marriage is not easy, but it is worthwhile. It is choosing to love someone and consider them more important than yourself til death due you part. 


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A Good Place And Time To Let God Be Your One And Only

A Good Place and Time To Let God Be Your One And Only

The courtship ended. The promise of marriage is broken, and He’s dating someone new. You have resolved that it’s for the best and you’re ready to move forward.

The fear of letting go of a relationship that was never going to work has been overcome. Yet, before long, there is this longing to rush and find someone new.

After all, you know how nice it is to say, “I have a boyfriend”. The memories of date nights and the ideal Valentine’s Day are not so far away. Sure, you’re ready to move forward, but not so sure you can do it alone.

God Your One and OnlyWhen you find yourself in between relationships, it is a perfect opportunity to take some time, and let God be your one and only.

Often while we’re waiting for a new man, God is waiting for us to allow Him to love us the way we need to be loved. We can be so consumed with relationships that we push God to the side. Our time with God becomes less frequent and less intimate.

As we look for the next relationship we sometimes fail to allow God to heal our brokenness from the last relationship. Why is that so, when He is the only one that has and freely gives the satisfaction our souls so desperately need?

While you are waiting on the perfect man, remember that God is your perfect everything. God is your perfect love. He is perfect in faithfulness. He is a perfect comforter. He is the root from which all of your blessings grow.

Jesus provides enough love and grace to keep us from being overly anxious and discontent in our single season. The key is to give Him our time.

If a man you loved walks away, you are not at a deficit as long as you have Christ.

While the dates are on hold, give God as much time as you can. Snuggle on the sofa and tell Him about your day. Tell God how you feel. Share your insecurities and your dreams. Read the scriptures and understand His heart.

Then close your eyes and rest in His peace. Let Him speak to your heart and fill your life with spiritual love and happiness.

In your single state, you will find more opportunities to enjoy God. Abundant living does not begin and end with a boyfriend. There is a love that is perfect and never unsure. Let that Love in.

Romance is wonderful and falling in love with the right person is a blessing.  Dating and courtship really are delights in life. But if you find yourself in between these delights, delight yourself in the endless love of the Lord.

Single, courting, or married, God is “The One” for you. Slow down and make time for Him to be your one and only.


Breaking the Valentine’s Day Mold and Kindle eBook Winners!

valentines day
Isn’t he the cutest!!!

Happy Valentine’s Day!!!

There is no question that Valentine’s Day is one of the most difficult days for singles.

The tradition of Valentine’s Day involves romance, candy, and flowers. But there will be seasons when “tradition” just doesn’t fit where we are in life. Thankfully tradition doesn’t rule the world. God does.

Yes, traditions have purpose and value. However, our lives don’t always fit the mold of tradition. So what do we do?

We take the heart of it, and transform it. Use this day as a platform to show love to all human kind. Romantic love is nice, but not as powerful as agape (unconditional) love, that can thrive in every kind of relationship.

My good friend lost her husband right before Valentine’s Day many years ago. Today, as a single woman, she uses the season of Valentine’s Day to encourage people to say “I love you” to everyone important in their lives. Because we are not promised tomorrow. 

Resolve conflicts today. Call a friend you haven’t seen in awhile. Offer a kind gesture to someone who is lonely today.

Change the tradition. Break the Valentine’s Day mold. 😉

Congratulations to our Overcoming The Sorrow Of Being Single eBook Winners!!!

Stephan L.


Tamela S.

They won Thrive: The Single Life as God Intended (Kindle Edition) by Lina AbuJamra.

Thank you again to our new 2014 subscribers and our faithful subscribers of years past. I love you all so dearly. God bless and spread some love today!


Overcoming The Sorrow… Day 17 – The Perils Of A Crush

I used to think that having a crush on someone was a teenage thing. You see someone from afar and want to speak but you’re too shy. You love their look and how they talk and soon the very thought of that person sends your head spinning. Yes, I thought this was teenage stuff… until it happened to me at twenty-something and until I heard it happening to others at thirty-something… forty something… and so on.

No matter our age, there is something that remains constant… we will always have the challenge of managing our emotions.

crushIt’s called a crush because when the person of interest does not express a mutual interest, it causes confusion, frustration, and sorrow.

We desperately question if this is the person God has planned for us to marry. We are frustrated because we can’t get a read on his emotions. And once he moves on to date or marry someone else we are back to sorrow.

Crushes are emotional traps that we must avoid at all cost. A simple liking that turns into a full crush, can distort realty and make our emotions difficult to manage.

I got over my own crush by making a firm decision to move on with my life. Quite frankly, I was tired of chasing. I concluded that this is not what love does. Love does not deceive, mislead, or leave in us in an abyss of confusion.

Create boundaries in relationships where necessary. Be aware of those first initial tugs at the heart and clearly establish the reality of what’s happing.

Squash a “crush” before it crushes your happiness and the path to God’s true plan for your life. 


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God Chasers: Pursuing the Lover of Your Soul by Tommy Tenny

Overcoming The Sorrow Of Being Single Day 16 – Wisdom Approved

Wisdom Approved

The world thinks you’re crazy. Blessed and beautiful women, who could have a man at the snap of their fingers, are choosing to remain single until the right man and the right time comes.

I can easily argue that the perils of being single are a light thing compared to how our lives would be without God’s wisdom at work.

My son, do not lose sight of these—keep sound wisdom and discretion, and they will be life for your soul and adornment for your neck. Then you will walk on your way securely, and your foot will not stumble. If you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. (Proverbs 3:21-24 ESV)

Seeking love without the use of wisdom and discretion will bring more sorrow, than living single ever could. If only I had a nickel for every married person that came to me and wished they could be in my shoes. They married for all the wrong reasons and would give anything to “get out”.

Recklessly falling in love sounds romantic to some, but a marriage will stand the test of time when approved by wisdom.

The world may not understand our ways..the ways of God’s wisdom, but rest assured that if you hold on to sound wisdom and discretion, you will walk securely and never be afraid.

God’s wisdom far surpasses the wisdom of this world. His understanding is deeper. His insight goes beyond what we may never see.

Be delighted that you have made the decision to have a love life that will be blessed, enduring, and wisdom approved.


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